Long story short: My daugher was df'd about 7-8 yrs ago. Bitter and resentful toward me, abusive jw ex-husb and the elders that didn't want to listen to her side. Saw her briefly at my younger daughter's wedding in 2003.
My Mom died last week. My daughter shows up at the burial today. It's only me and my wife.
My daughter and I were both apprehensive about seeing each other again, not knowing what to expect. What a WONDERFUL time we had together. I showed UNCONDITIONAL love. There were apologies and forgiveness. It was absolutely GREAT.
I now have a better relationship with her than with my other 2 kids who are active JW but keep their distance from me because they know I don't buy the FDS/GB myth anymore. I am not df'd or da'd however and still go to an occasional mtg.
I must give all the credit to my wife who doesn't let JW rules dictate her actions.
Skeptic1914