Do you have difficulty accepting gifts, being happy, and showing emotion? (page 2)

MsMcDucket

Happy 30th Anniversary. That's a real achievement and it should be celebrated and you and your hubby should be made a fuss of

Thanks Bubble!

MsMcDucket

Don't be so hard on yourself - I've often listened to and enjoyed some of the music you've shared - music imo is a wonderful way to share and participate in emotion.

Bernadette thanks! I never know who's actually listening to what I post!

MsMcDucket

Best wishes from your little bro,
Nvr

Thanks Little Bro! You are one of a kind!

jgnat

I don't have a problem with giving things; I have a problem accepting others help or gifts.

I understand. I had to overcome this. If someone compliments you, graciously say "Thank you", not "this old thing?" Look at it this way. You are insulting the compliment and the giver if you don't accept it. You can practice smiling broadly in the mirror. Anything. It's been proven that we can make ourselves happier by smiling. Over time, as you learn to take the gifts, it will get easier.

The chinese similarly fear bringing bad luck (and demons) on themselves if they praise too highly. I hear they will heap all kinds of abuse on a newborn to make sure the demons lose interest. (Just finished watching Norbert last night).

Ok, now do you think that they really missed us and wanted to see us or are they up to something else?

This is what I think. I think women second guess people's motives far too much. A long time ago I decided to take people's generosity at face value. If later they changed their mind, that is THEIR problem, not mine. I think it is good for you to pretend WITH ALL YOUR HEART that the twins just wanted to help you celebrate.

If later, they reveal a hidden agenda, you can be appropriately offended. But for now, bask in the attention.

ninja

Hey ms mcducky...congrats on the big 30.......I think the technical term for fear of being happy is..."jehovah's witness"....don't quote me on it though....and I have no problems accepting gifts...please send as many as you all want...I will show you my happiness and will send videos of my tears as proof...money also accepted....cheques made payable to...da ninja

Scully

I am easily embarrassed by being the centre of attention. It makes me terribly uncomfortable. But I will allow it, depending on the circumstances - if my kids do something to surprise me, I let them enjoy their moment of doing something thoughtful for me. You're a mom, so you know that sometimes these moments don't happen very often as the children get older, so you learn to cherish them and enjoy them too.

There was this one time when a patient sent my manager and the program director a letter to let her know how much she appreciated my care when I worked with her. She felt that I had gone "above and beyond" where "mere professionalism" would have sufficed. My manager brought that letter (the patient had also cc'd a copy to me) to our Unit Meeting and read it aloud in front of my colleagues. I know she meant well, and my colleagues were happy for me, but I was mortified with embarrassment. I honestly felt like I was going to throw up. Or faint. Or something that would be equally or even more embarrassing.

So, yeah, I have trouble with all that, from years of being reminded that (1) I wouldn't amount to anything, (2) I wasn't good enough, (3) being a girl it didn't matter anyway.

OUTLAW

I used to..Untll I faced death in the wilderness..Now I enjoy what life has to offer.....From the book of OUTLAW,chapter1,verse 1:"Don`t wait till death stares you in the face to enjoy life."...OUTLAW

Mary

Do you have difficulty accepting gifts, being happy, and showing emotion?

Yes, yes and yes.

MsMcDucket

There was this one time when a patient sent my manager and the program director a letter to let her know how much she appreciated my care when I worked with her. She felt that I had gone "above and beyond" where "mere professionalism" would have sufficed. My manager brought that letter (the patient had also cc'd a copy to me) to our Unit Meeting and read it aloud in front of my colleagues. I know she meant well, and my colleagues were happy for me, but I was mortified with embarrassment. I honestly felt like I was going to throw up. Or faint. Or something that would be equally or even more embarrassing.

Skully, I broke a smile on this one! Oh, I know how you felt! What is wrong with us!

MsMcDucket

This is what I think. I think women second guess people's motives far too much. A long time ago I decided to take people's generosity at face value. If later they changed their mind, that is THEIR problem, not mine. I think it is good for you to pretend WITH ALL YOUR HEART that the twins just wanted to help you celebrate.
If later, they reveal a hidden agenda, you can be appropriately offended. But for now, bask in the attention.

JgNat as always you give good advice. I think that I'm going to take it!

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