I'm planning on letting her decide how often she keeps in touch. At least for now. I don't wanna "run her off".
As far as the kids are concerned, I'm not really that concerned her telling them what she believes in (to a point) because I figure that I have enough information to show them different. I have no concerns for Zach converting because he remembers being in the borg when he was 5 and he hated it. He also have seen how they have been treating me since I decided that I didn't want to be a JW. My thoughts on the kids are, they are going to run across a JW or two in their life time and if grandma or grandpa tries to teach them their ways, they are young enough that I can then show them how messed up it is. If they don't get exposed to it now at their young age they might fall into the trap when they are older.
Another point that Zach sees is that he can do things that JW's can't..like baseball practices every Tues and Thurs. I explain to him when I was his age, I wasn't allowed to do it because of the meetings and the association. On occassion I say "honey, you know, if we were still JW's you wouldn't be allowed to do this"...his reaction is "that's stupid".
Another thing is his best friend comes spend the night here with us quite often and he knows he wouldn't be allowed to do this because his best friend isn't a JW. He sometimes tell me "mom, it doesn't make sense that God would kill people even when they are good".
Anyway, I'm hoping that this continues. If I take it slow, then maybe she won't get a "bad conscience" feeling. Maybe she can see that I'm still the same daughter just with different views on a personal choice subject.
~FF~