Jeremy,
Please don't cry. I've cried enough for both of us the last few days to last a lifetime. Focus on the joy in your life and the happiness of love and a wedding. Email me if you need someone to talk to. I have something you and Jess might like. I have a pair of Unity candles that Jon and I used at our commitment ceremony. I would like to send you and Jess a pair if you would like them. They have always signified great love to me and I hope they will signify the same to you both.
Take care,
Kevin