it doesnt matter what you expect or what you hope for... i almost agree with your theory that everything happens for a reason.... and your theory on bad being the new not so good, well, i don't mean to be rude, but its almost redundant... if you expect the worst, well then things are going to be bad, you'lll be constantly depressed...
with the bull shit i have gone through in my short stay on this earth, i have learned that life is about outlook... i smile and expect the best.. i give myself the best... and you know what, i make the best out of the worst situation... call me an optimist, call me a moron, but things are definitely going well for me....
and as for everything that happens having a reason, you're right, but we HAVE TO MAKE the reason... learn from the mistakes, thats the reason
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