How did you decide it was "true love"? (page 2)

Sirona

We were just friends and he'd invited me to lunch for the second time. Half an hour before the time for him to pick me up, I realised I had butterflies. The last time I had "real" butterflies meeting someone was when I was 17.

Then when we hugged / kissed, it felt wonderful, like coming "home".

Now, there is noone in this world I'd rather spend time with. There is noone I'd rather talk to. There is noone I respect more.

Every time we've been apart, I can't wait to see him.

We work together now - in different offices - and we're always stealing moments for a cuddle.

When the time is right, I want his children.

Sirona

MariAruet

I knew the moment he was no longer around, wish I could turn the time back but I can't. Eventually I ended up with a "decent witness boy" but my heart and mind were always with one that slipped away. It is funny how some decisons come to haunt you years later.

diamondblue1974

I knew moment he was no longer around, wish I could turn the time back but I can't. Eventually I ended up with a "decent witness boy" but my heart and mind were always with one that slipped away. IT is funny how some decisons come to haunt you years later.

I can really concur with this sentiment although with some differences.

For me it was a friendship that became much stronger, through the passage of time it was so apparent that we connected on so many levels that I knew I was in danger of falling if I let myself. I wasnt ready for this in fact I was fresh out of an existing relationship. But despite this, I knew I couldnt not go with my feelings - I had little choice in the matter really; we connected on a physical level (shes gorgeous), we connected emotionally and our spiritual paths were completely in sync albeit different. We could talk for hours about complete bollocks or for hours about more deeper things and time just flew. We had so many areas of common ground it was like we had lived parallel lives in fact our previous lives almost mirrored each other - even to the extent of having the same reoccuring nightmare as a child! Speaking of dreams I remember in my dreams when I was younger there was always a girl with dark hair and blue eyes who would appear at some point and there would be a connection but I wasnt sure who it was or what this meant; It was only later when flicking through old photographs of Dawn that I realised who it was that had appeared on so many occasions. On a more grounded level we agree on such a lot; although where we disagree we are not afraid to challenge each other- she helps me see things in a different light. Where there was previous pain we healed each other and still do. Where historically there were diffulties there is now sanctuary and as she has mentioned above, it feels like 'home I shouldve known from my first breath'. I reciprocate the fact that there is nobody I would rather be with; I miss her when I am not with her; I would be honoured to be the father of her children. Gary

Crumpet

Now, there is noone in this world I'd rather spend time with. There is noone I'd rather talk to. There is noone I respect more.
Every time we've been apart, I can't wait to see him.
We work together now - in different offices - and we're always stealing moments for a cuddle.
When the time is right, I want his children.
Sirona

Oh my god that is so beautiful!

sass_my_frass

For me it was about respect, trust, commonality, and him not minding that I'm a doofus.

Sirona

Don't get me wrong, I know we're (I'm) exceedingly lucky and that it will take work to maintain, because the only things we're sure of in this life are change and death. Everything changes and we have to be ready to adapt to the change.

Sirona

MariAruet

Wow Gary that was beautiful, and let me tell you she is also a lucky woman to have someone like you. I miss long conversations with my first love too, we also connected on a deep level and could talk about anything and everything. Nothing was too stupid or too outthere for us. I think it wasn't even important what we talked about as long as we talked. So all I can tell you keep talking, when there's nothing to say, when he/she has every excuse in the book why couldn't talk to you then that is pretty much the end of it. I see it all the time. Many marriages start falling appart years earlier and lack of conversation is usually always the first thing to happen. So keep talking to her and good luck ;-)

Crumpet

So getting damp is not the course of true loins then? WONDERS NEVER CEASE!

I know when I am in love - I can't eat.

Backed away

When the thought of being without her, made my heart ache. When the time comes, I hope I die first, I cannot imagine living without her, really.

I had been married twice before and truly believed marriage must not be right for me. I had told friends to put on my tombstone, " boy, did he know how to pick em! "

Convinced I should be a bachelor, I stopped looking. Some friends from a former employer would get together and a certain woman who I worked with who was really short on the phone, never made eye contact and avoided me was coming, I really didn't want to go since I thought she hated my guts or at least the very sight of me. Once it got out I was declining, her friend called and confessed she only acted that way because she really liked me. I ended up going and started up (forced really) a conversaton with her mainly because I was intrigued but to my surprise a friendship started.

The more I was around her, the more I could not be without her. My prevoius marriages never had the passion, the feelings I have for my Wife now. No lie, when our eyes meet across crowded rooms or when she goes to work and looks back once more before she leaves, my knees still buckle.

She is my best friend and the person I admire the most and for the first time, I actually look forward to growing old with someone.

The jury is out for me on whether there is a God or not, but I do know Angels exist, I'm married to one.

How did you decide it was "true love"?

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