How I felt when I left the truth..........

by fifi40 13 Replies latest jw experiences

  • fifi40
    fifi40

    After my disfellowshipping, I felt like a person alone in a very dark room full of strange objects..........someone grappling around in pitch black wary of everything I touched. I didnt want involvment with another religion..........my thinking was that the Jehovah's Witnesses were right despite my having put myself in the position where I was no longer acceptable to them. Other religions had no draw for me, and to this day, I still remain indifferent to them.

    And yet, I missed the comfort that I had experienced as a witness..............the hope, the so called 'answers and the feeling of belonging to a community of like minded people.

    Occasionally I have dabbled with other forms of 'answers'..............reading my stars, doing tarot, a mystic meg approach to the answers of life. Strange how I felt more comfortable with using these forms of explanations for the future than becoming involved in other religious based concepts, and yet they are so harshly condemned in both the bible and all the JW literature I was exposed to throughout my life.

    Being raised in the truth can, I think, leave you terribly vunerable to the real world, fearful of all that it encompasses, ignorant of 'happiness' outside of the organisation, conditioned by a set of beliefs that make a balanced and contented, (even delightful) life an uphill struggle to achieve.

    But for me it is an uphill struggle I am committed to taking......................it is almost like I wish to be 'born again' (excuse the pun), free of all the superstition and false mumbo jumbo I have been exposed to.

    The reason I started this thread was because I did something stupid recently...............I had a dream about bats (the nocturnal kind) and I did some googling about dream analysis and guess what ..............dreaming of black bats can signify death or personal disaster. Part of me worries about this and another part recognises it as the side of me still looking for answers. Answers to what life is all about? Where we are headed? Where I am headed?

    As a baby, as a child I was taught, and as an adult I blindly accepted all the answers that being part of the JWs gives you.....................as I have come to realise the faultiness of those answers its like some part of me goes off looking for answers from somewhere else................seeking to feel safe and comforted............and yet sometimes I look in dangerous places.

    So probably I am still the person grappling around in the darkened and strange room, except maybe now the curtain is now slightly parted allowing a ray of light. I hope it continues to get brighter.

    Does anyone else relate to these types of feelings or strange things we do?

    Fifi

  • Gregor
    Gregor

    It would be a good start to eliminate the term "the truth" when referring to the WTS. Good luck.

  • ninja
    ninja

    I had the feeling (and still do) of going it alone ....was shattered when I first found out all wasn't well in paradise....but I feel I had the courage of my convictions to face whatever came my way....basically I am happy I kept my integrity and like your good self mrs feefster I feel it was and is an uphill struggle I am happy to take...pretty lonely at times but this board is a godsend where one can relate to others running up that hill....with no problems...I feel a song coming on....he he....da ninja

  • Shawn10538
    Shawn10538

    Things, (like dreams, numbers, words, events) do not have intrinsic meanings. If you get no other thing straight in your whole life, get this straight. Things do not have meanings. PEOPLE project meanings on to things. So, guess what. You are in charge of applying meaning to your dreams. You are in charge of putting meaning on to words even. Words do not hold meaning. They have no capacity whatsoever to hold anything at all - zero storage space. So, we as a society have words, and we all agree together that when we say a certain sound, we will think of a certain other thing, until someone comes along and says, "Hey, I want to think of roses when I hear the sound fire hydrant. So he starts saying fire hydrant every time he sees a rose. The man goes on to become very famous, rich and powerful. So, other people start to say fire hydrant when they see a rose. decades pass, and before you knowit, most of the world says fire hydrant when they see a rose. Therefore, in this story, what does fire hydrant mean? It means rose. Finally the makers of dictionaries are forced to include among its definitions, under fire hydrant, that an alternative meaning is a rose. Thus a new meaning and new word is born. Fire hydrant has no storage capacity. It means what we say it means, while we say it means something. Its meaning can be changed.
    So, about your bat question... think about it. Does it really make sense that if you dream about a bat, you are going to die? Says who, and how do they know? I think you'll find that it is really silly to believe such a thing. Decide to make it mean what you want it to mean, and it WILL MEAN THAT.

  • ninja
    ninja

    my wife would be pissed if I tried to pass off a fire hydrant as a rose.....I think she would project her foot up my arse

  • Handsome Dan
    Handsome Dan

    But it does feel good to reassemble your intelligence from the mental slavery of the WTS.................. I feel sorry for the people that are left there

  • fifi40
    fifi40

    Ninja - Thanks for kinda relating, dont get me wrong I am basically a happy person............its my nature/personality........but sometimes I just wrong foot myself.....................and is it coincidence part of the words to Kate Bush's song are 'And if I only could, I'd make a deal with God and get him to swap our places'................ hee hee

    Shawn - fire hydrants apart..................you are spot on............thanks

    Handsome Dan..................just got to keep on reassembling thanks

  • fifi40
    fifi40

    Oh and thanks to Warlock...................he knows why

  • sinis
    sinis

    Ever see the movie City Slickers? You know what that "one thing" is? Its WHATEVER makes you happy! Is there an afterlife? I don't know, I don't think anyone does. However, did you worry about a "before life" before you were born? Chances are no. So why worry about an afterlife after you are dead. If there is nothing than you won't have much to worry about. Which brings us back to that "one thing". Do whatever you want in life and want to achieve, apply the golden rule, especially in treating others how you want to be treated, and life has a marvelous way of doing the rest...

    Dabbling is fun. haven't seen or heard anything yet, but who knows. Maybe one day I will be pleasently supprised.

  • uninformed
    uninformed

    Fifi,

    I agree that it is a difficult step, when you are invested in such a religion as the witnesses. I think it is especially difficult to recover if you think you have "morally failed" to live up to a certain way of life, and then are disfellowshipped.

    Don't forget though that the blood of Christ is there for all of us, and he did come to save 'sinners' not righteous persons. So, cheer up. Remember Manasseh, the King of Israel? He even put his own infant son to death to Baal, and Jehovah forgave him. David didn't do so hot, and he is called "a man after God's own heart". And the list goes on and on.

    Try to break the habit of calling it the "Truth". It isn't the truth as taught in the Bible and it would help you to make your break if you could really accept how wicked a religious system it really is.

    I did enjoy the following comment that I put in red: (very profound thought)

    Ever see the movie City Slickers? You know what that "one thing" is? Its WHATEVER makes you happy! Is there an afterlife? I don't know, I don't think anyone does. However, did you worry about a "before life" before you were born? Chances are no. So why worry about an afterlife after you are dead. If there is nothing than you won't have much to worry about. Which brings us back to that "one thing". Do whatever you want in life and want to achieve, apply the golden rule, especially in treating others how you want to be treated, and life has a marvelous way of doing the rest...

    I personally would not mess with any form of spiritism, but we are all liberated to do what we want. Just be careful. Try to figure out a way or a formula that will help you live a good happy life and trust in Jehovah. I am working to do the same, but it is difficult.

    Good luck,

    Brant

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