After watching Jordon Spraks on American Idol so strongly supported by her parents, I wonder what some of us could have accomplished had we had the same in our younger years.
What could you have done at that age?
r.
by restrangled 13 Replies latest jw friends
After watching Jordon Spraks on American Idol so strongly supported by her parents, I wonder what some of us could have accomplished had we had the same in our younger years.
What could you have done at that age?
r.
Greetings, r. --------
While not familiar with A.I. nor Jordan S., I must say that parental support IS everything. Despite what we "know" to be the WT's stance on education and involvement with the arts, JWs whose children I teach are 100% behind their offsprings' artistic development. To hear us talk and plan you'd have no idea that there was a high-control entity interfering with the kids' artistic development. I'm not necessarily talking about aiming for a career, but parents - JW or not - whose passion is nudging the children along, make all the difference in the world. My parents and grandparents were totally behind me as I moved toward a life in the arts. Despite the 40 year hiatus as a JW, I am moving back into the arena of full-time advocate of the fine arts, and those four dear, deceased "parents" are the motivation.
When I was a kid, fame and fortune were certainly a motivating factor, but I'm no longer a juvenile. Making a difference, just passing on the torch, is reward enough for CoCo. So glad to get "me" out of the way!
CoCo
Yes, parental support and love works magic in a young heart!
Without it life is much more challenging.
I'm not sure what I would have accomplished, but if I was NOT raised a JW I can tell you what I would NOT have accomplished.
1. I would not have publicly announced I wanted to kill myself at age 11.
2. I would not have received beating after beating(not spankings) for falling asleep during meetings.
3. I would not have been made fun of my entire life in school and in my neighborhood.
4. I would have had a childhood.
5. I would know what it's like to get birthday and christmas presents.
6. I would not have dropped out of highschool.(Who needs school when you CANT go to college and all you can do is preach)
7. I would not have been depressed for as long as I can remember, and would not have social anxiety disorder.
8. I would not have random panic attacks for no reason.
9. I would not have had to live in fear of doing anything the WTS said was wrong in fear I would die a horrible death at Armageddon.
I don't want to bore you all with anymore but my first child was born last month. You know how you say I'm going to give her/him what I never had? Well most mean material possesions, when we say that we mean a happy childhood. I already warned my mom if she ever preaches to her or takes her into a KH that will be the last time she ever sees her.
Now that I think of it I know what I would have accomplished if I had the support that girls parents gave her. I'd live a happy care free life not fearing that the normal human desires and thoughts I had would not have gotten me destroyed at armageddon.
My parents wanted me to do a degree and follow a professional career - they had such high hopes for me. My husband's parents wanted him to do one too, they were livid when he dropped out of doing his A'levels to pioneer.
I really feel like I'd like to complete my education now though but am unsure what in - religious studies. I was never very good at mathematics at school and now feel quite motivated to maybe do a year long highschool level course in maths. Get the old grey cells going - feeling excited thinking about it - good topic restrangled.
bernadette of the not sure class
Well i think if i had more support from my family i would of achieved a lot more than i did playing sports.Not blowing my own horn but i was rated 3rd fastest in my country at my age , but i was only allowed to compete to a certain level,ill never know how far i could of gone. Nationals were out of the question because my mother had a weird idea that the spirit of competition was bad.It was crazy trying to explain to my phys ed teacher who backed me 100% even tho i was a wildchild.I kinda hate the witnesses a little bit for that lol.
I think not being able to play sports beyond playing for my school(and even that was frowned upon by other witnesses),was i guess 1 of the reasons i gave up and started doing drugs because to me it seemed so pointless.I dont know...
My parents werent going to support me regardless. My father wasnt a witness, he was into himself. My mother hung out on the couch when we werent at meetings.
I could have RULED the world!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA oh wait..realistically u mean? who knows! I had an interest in the stage many many years ago...had to smuggle myself into an audition in HS..got the part even...(a drunk, homelss bum with a little dog he carried around) but had to lie to my folks..sneak out for rehearsals and even had to *GASP miss not one but TWO meetings in one week...sigh...eh...those were the days...anyways..wuda cuda mighta been able to have been an actor with a little support from my parental units! lol but hey thats life right?
-Z-
I think I could have invented many more things than I have so far.
DeVil DriVer 76
and on your new baby!
BFD