We had one come to our KH - he had no concept of reality, no humilty, and no mercy. And he was the fastest to reprimand me for asking for help from domestic abuse. (I was speaking against my husband apparently - is that like speaking against the GB when they are wrong, or the elders when they are molesting children?) And he was in the front lines to DF me for leaving the abusive spouse. There was no mercy in his mind at all. Sadly, the mercy he deals out will be dealt to him most likely.
His trouble was that he had come to Bethel straight out of mommy's house and had everything handed to him at Bethel. Yes, I know it is a shitty place, but basically - you show up for breakfast, lunch and dinner and it is supplied to you. Your dishes are cleared and washed for you. You turn in your clothes and they come back magically washed. The reality of dealing with taking care of yourself, dealing with a paycheck and outside life... He had no concept. No idea that we worked for a living and maybe making all five meetings with kids was a bit stressful. No idea that turning in 60 hours a month on top of raising kids and working full time might be an unreasonable expectation. No idea that leaving his pregnant wife alone in a substandard apartment all day would be hard for her. In short, he came back a real jerk.
Well, the haughtier they are, the harder they fall. Unless (like some of you on this board) you climb down willingly.