i tell any jw's i know to never go to elders for marriage problems
and i tell them why i say so.
my ex was df'd for a while, while df'd he threw me against a fridge in a fit of anger, i was 5 months pregnant at the time.
scared him so he called the elders to complain about why he was mad at me
the elders never once said anything about him throwing me, they sat in my house and told ME to work harder on being a good wife
work harder on getting to meetings, service , etc
one was a house cleaner, one was a shady fella who i dont really know what he did ( he killed himself around 2000 because the end didnt come and he was in a financial mess.. leaving his wife to clean up after him)
it is STUPID to put something as important as a marriage in the hands of untrained men who have an agenda to further the interests of the watchtower bible and tract society. NOT the interest of you or your marriage.