There's a guy I work with and he aggrivates the hell out of me.
I tell him every day jokingly that he aggrivates the hell out of me. A common response to him is, "Why do you have to come in here and aggrivate me?" *giggle* *giggle* so he thinks I'm joking .... or "You're just doing that to aggrivate me aren't you?" *giggle* *giggle* ... and he laughs thinking I'm not serious.
It helps my feelings to tell him -- even though he doesn't realize how serious I am.
And about the shoes:
My MOTHER has those shoes. ... I finally convinced her that she looks like a clown wearing them and she quit.