Saw an old JW friend at the bar last night ....ooops

by troubled mind 14 Replies latest jw friends

  • troubled mind
    troubled mind

    Last night my husband and I went to the local hole in the wall bar for supper . Real small local bar . We sit at a table and my husband notices this guy behind me at the bar is a witness he knows from another town a few hours away from us . They were friends years ago , this guy had been out for quite a few years and just recently maybe four yrs.ago came back into j-dum.

    When my husband goes over to say hi the guy gets all defensive of why he is sitting at the bar drinking ....he stumbles all over himself making excuses that he is there with a work client . (Like we care) We just try to talk normal to him like, hi how are you ect....( but the fear really grips him ) Then he starts saying WOW wasn't the assembly really great this year ! Were you guys there I didn't see you this year .How about the new CO he is really great right ........... LOL,. I start laughing and finally say "Listen Dave we weren't there this summer in fact we have been inactive for over a year .So no we don't even know who the new CO is glad you like him ."

    OOOhhhhhh ! Then a little more small talk and he stillcovers himself saying well we are going to the restrurant next . I laugh again and say, 'Yeah there is a good bar in there too!" , at which his client gets a good laugh .

    Poor guy couldn't just be normal . Remember being afraid of being seen in the wrong place and always being worried because you know Witnesses are the spectacle of the world and God forbid you stumble someone ..sheesh what awaste of energy.

  • pallemar
    pallemar

    Ack sounds really sad, I'm glad i have never been in JW ;) but they sure is fun to tell about the bibel MUAHHAHAHAHHA!

    I'm happy you got out :) ps, i'm a ateist

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff

    Sad is the word that comes to mind.

    Funny how he covered his tracks, but seemed ok with you guys being in there, even though he didn't know you were not 'in' any longer.

    I don't go to bars - just occasionally to the family room where my sister works as waitress. But if I did, even as a Jw, I would not have acted so paranoid I don't think. That's too sad really. I would have been tempted to give him my email and tell him to 'stay in touch'. Might have been an interesting conversation or two develop.

    Thanx for relating.

    Jeff

  • changeling
    changeling

    Yes, it is sad. Sad that grown-ups can't use their freedom of choice to decide what is right for them w/o being monitored.

  • greendawn
    greendawn

    Is it bad for a JW to go out to a normal bar to eat and drink some alcohol? That person sounded really guilty for being there. He was really trying to show that he has no independent will and that he is under someone's command and direction over personal choices, not nice for an adult.

  • FreedomFrog
    FreedomFrog

    Was his "client" a female by any chance? May explain some of the nervousness if so.

  • jambon1
    jambon1

    I remember when I used to be paranoid about bumping into witnesses when i was grocery shopping, just in case they saw my beer and spirits. Then, eventually, I thought 'fack them'!

  • middlechild
    middlechild
    Remember being afraid of being seen in the wrong place and always being worried because you know Witnesses are the spectacle of the world and God forbid you stumble someone

    Sucks that i'm out 5 years now and still worry what t-shirt i put on in the morning depending on who i'm seeing that day. i have an olive t-shirt that says ARMY in black letters across the front and a t-shirt that has a unicorn on it that i can't wear if i'm dropping my daughter off at my jw mom's or my jw mil's. so i figure it's safe to wear it camping last weekend. wouldn't u know i bump into a family of old jw friends wearing my ARMY t-shirt. how stupid is that. could i possibly get over what others think of me?

  • Hortensia
    Hortensia

    It takes years to get over the indoctrination. Recently as a joke I called an ex-JW friend who has been out of the org. for 40 years. I asked her why she wasn't at the meeting (it was Thursday evening) and she actually hesitated before she got it and laughed. She said that she immediately felt guilty!

  • bluebell
    bluebell

    and what gets me is that there is nothing wrong with being in a bar! so who cares? lol i used to get freaked about doing really normal things too.

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