Another update.

by R.F. 15 Replies latest jw experiences

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  R.F.

  Hello all:

  Just wanted to fill you all in on what's been going on with me lately......

  Well it's been about a month and a half and i've been to 2 congregation meetings within that time span. I've gotten no calls from any of the elders accept two, and they might've called twice each at the most, but it does seem like they're inquiring about me through another person at the moment. But either way, I feel im on the right track with fading, and I really don't care about what the elders think anymore, or any other JW for that matter.

  My dad who was on my case hard at first has backed off. He put the interrogation to me again and I told him to not worry about me and he hasn't asked about meetings since. He just said..."well i'll just let you handle it then, I won't ask anymore. My sister is awesome...she is older than me by the way. He asked her when she was going to the meeting. She's not a JW, so when he asked her that she really didn't say anything, she only did a little eye roll when he asked hehe. She might go to meetings once every couple of months, if even that. So i know she would't care if I was even DFed one day or something. She even tells me about some of the "friends" that work her nerves lol! Some of them can be so pushy...they try to squeeze in on her personal space when they can. She seems more vocal about some of her issues with them now. I wonder if she's figured out what i've been up to, I haven't told her how i've felt about the entire organization, just the local congo.

  One other thing about dad...he's started to slip with meeting attendance too, so I don't know what's going on with him. Everyone in the congo says they believe that my enthusiam with the org is what encouraged my family to do so. That's a point that one elder used on me to try to get me to get back to meetings regularly, so I wonder just how much on an impact my actions are on them.

  My mom hasn't asked me about going to the meetings lately at all so that's good. She doesn't attend much herself so I knew she wouldn't say much if anything.

  Im thinking about writing a letter to the BOE of my resignation from MS and pioneer. I honestly wonder if they think i'm depressed because of recent events and are clueless as to how to approach me.

  I was in an automobile accident yesterday but i'm fine. Was just a bit shaken up and sore yesterday. Back to 100% now. :-)

  Been appreciating life alot more lately. Living for the moment, and not being too worried now about how things will work out. I'm just going with the flow and seeing where God leads me. I appreciate my family alot more also. Im just so glad the mental shackels have been unlocked for me. It truly is a new and wonderful experience for me.

  Life is great! Enjoy

  R.F.
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  Vernon Williams

  Wonderful report!

  A time of rest and relaxation in this exiting process is so important. I am glad you are, wisely, I think anyway, taking the time to de-stress. Good for you!

  Yours in this Journey,

  V
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  SnakesInTheTower

  glad to hear things are going well with you (except for that ) ...

  You have come a long way in such a short time of posting (less than 2 months as of this writing). Your prolific postings have been informative, encouraging, humorous, and appreciated.

  As for the reg pio/MS thing....I am surprised you have not given up on at least the pioneering already. I dont know if you were "making your time" (tm) in February, but apparenty you are not making quota now. Yet, you stated the following about the elders in your congo:

  I've gotten no calls from any of the elders accept two, and they might've called twice each at the most, but it does seem like they're inquiring about me through another person at the moment.

  and this:

  t's been about a month and a half and i've been to 2 congregation meetings within that time span

  HUH??? How is it the spiritual shepherds have not contacted a MS/reg pioneer under such circumstances? Even the worst body of elders Gestapos should have been encouraging you getting on your case for shirking your responsibilities. I dont know when your CO visit is, but expect that if you have not "humbly" stepped aside by then, you will be removed and serious questions will be asked..... OF YOU NOT THE BORGelders.

  In my experience and training in the Borg, RF, I highly recommend you step aside immediately....Write them a letter, blame it on the loss of your fiancee if you want....depressed, blah blah....just dont express doubts about the Borg! if you want ANY chance at a successful fade. (hey, I can relate to that...I started going down hill after my fiancee broke off our engagement last year). But if you wait, it will make your fade harder....unless your CO is as asleep at the switch as your elders seem to be (either that, or as cunning ...and they are waiting to pounce on you during the CO visit).

  Glad your sister is being so awesome...and sounds like the mental vice grip that the Borg has on your parents is getting a serious crack in it... family is all important...despite what the Borg keeps trying to pound into our head about JW family being tenfold after losing nonJW family....blah blah...

  glad to hear the story is on the upswing... love to chug a mug one day with you... cheers!

  SnakesInTheTower (of the "tipping my cap to Roller Dave for his comment about my closing" Sheep Class)

  Plus, you're the guy who introduced us all to the (of the 'whatever' sheep class) thingie. I LOVE that, it's a very useful device for commentary, and I thank you.

  ...someone finally got it!...sometimes now I just shorten it to () if I am just welcoming someone to the board...cause Im in hurry sometimes! like this one!!!...
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  Lady Liberty

  Dear R.F.,

  I am so glad to hear things are going well. Sounds like in time if your dad continues to miss meetings, that maybe he will be open to talk about things. He may have his own issues. Isn't it great not to have to live in fear anymore?? Not have to compete with others only to feel like you don't quite measure up. Or that you can always do better. Jesus said his yoke was light and refreshing. Not so in the organization, but once you leave and you research everything, the guilt is gone and you can live and really begin to enjoy life...it truely is refreshing and light. Please keep us posted as to how things are going.

  Sincerely,

  Lady Liberty
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  neverendingjourney
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  purplesofa

  Keep on keeping on purps
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  greendawn

  It's amazing how getting away from the toxic environment of the WTS brings about a dramatic improvement in one's outlook on life. It is a sickening environment in ways that are often difficult to pinpoint, perhaps being in a system that demands much and gives back little, the negative god image, the lack of real spiritual depth and commitment in the org, the isolation from the rest of society.

  You seem to have planned well your exit and following it methodically.
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  R.F.

  Thank you all. You have been the best.

  Snakes said.

  As for the reg pio/MS thing....I am surprised you have not given up on at least the pioneering already. I dont know if you were "making your time" (tm) in February, but apparenty you are not making quota now.

  You're right, I should've already relinquished the reg pioneering. I had been too nice about it when dealing with one particular elder. I let him know I wanted to resign and he has been fighting it to the death. I was talking to purps yesterday about me just typing a letter to the BOE telling them I want to resign from both positions. And yes i've missed that many meetings. One elder did talk to me to see how I was doing, that was it.

  R.F.
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  sass_my_frass

  Good one!

  Im thinking about writing a letter to the BOE of my resignation from MS and pioneer.

  No, don't put anything in writing - you're fading, remember? That means you have to become invisible. If you have any regular MS duties, call in sick regularly, and be very unreliable, just be polite about it so the guy in charge doesn't start on your case. If you don't, just let them work out when to fire you when they feel like it. Good odds they won't get around to it for months or years. Make it their problem.
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  RollerDave

  All Right R.F!!

  Just remember that the WTS is like the ravenous bugblatter beast of traal, if you can't see it, it then assumes it cannot see you.

  That's what towels are for, and above all, DON'T PANIC.

  Roller (of the 'gee, now I'm smiling' sheep class)