Struggling.... (page 4)

freedomloverr

(((((sweetpea))))

I remember that also. one of the worst days of my life. my best friend offered to *turn me in* and then gave me a week or else she would. I tried to confide in her and it made my head spin at how fast people turned on me. It was heartbreaking to say the least....

hang in there. you have many true friends to make and they won't leave you text messages like "just leave it at my front door."

Hortensia

too bad you aren't in southern California. You could come over and help drink up all the wine my husband left - I don't drink wine or anything like that and have dozens of bottles in my kitchen. A couple of times I've had a dinner party and had folks open bottles until they each found one they liked - made for some cheerful parties.

as for the last letter I got from a former JW friend, by the time I got it, I didn't care any more. It was amusing that she had to write a letter to make it clear to me after all that time! I know you'll feel better about it one of these days and in the meantime, love your kid and visit us online!

Hortensia

freedom lover - I just read your post over again and was shocked - what kind of friend is that? Oh, that's right, they love a non-existant god more than a real friend.

nvrgnbk

Hortensia's story reminded me of one of my own.

After a phone conversation with a long-time Witness "friend", with him assuring me that we would always be "friends", regardless of what I decided to do about the "truth", he sent me a 12-page letter.

The last sentence of the first paragraph said that he would not, nor would he even want to, speak to me if I persisted in my apostate views. The rest was unmitigated bullshit.

The ironic thing about this "friend" is that I really reached out to him after I was a closet apostate. Took him and his wife out last fall for their anniversary. He said it was one of the nicest experiences they ever had as a couple. Too bad he didn't know he was associating with an apostate. LOL!

Yep. We're the normal ones sweet pea. They are to be pitied. Cry a little. But never forget, you're better than all that cult propaganda says you are.

bikerchic

(((sweet pea)))

I know how crappy it feels and just today I came across a card I got years ago from my bestest JW girlfriend in the good times....or should I say when I was still a JW and I cried because all that is gone due to this damn cult!

Yes she too sent me an email telling me she could no longer associate with me in anyway (email, snail mail or telephone) because I am damaging her cherished relationship with Jehober. 30 plus years gone, sucks big time! I still miss her and many times get the urge to talk to her. I wonder if she even thinks of me........LOL knowing her she does and then she'll say something like, "oops must say 20 hail Mary's for my sin." We were a couple of fruitcakes and had a lot of fun making fun of the JW stuff, sigh.

I relish in the fact that I probably still put a smile on her face for some of the pranks and crazy stuff she and I did together. I hope someday you'll feel at least this, it's not much but the good memories are something to cherish for always, they can't take them away from you. Damn cult!

OnTheWayOut

Just remember, you're better than all of that.
And they're not bad people. They're just trapped in a cult.
May they wake up as you have.
Enjoy your freedom, your peace, and those that love you unconditionally, starting with yourself.

Sorry for your bad news, but I second the comments above.

esw1966

I'm sorry you are going through all of their garbage.

rose petal

Sorry, SweetPea, I guess a lot of people here have gone through the same thing. I had two best friends that dropped me like a hot rock when my abusive ex left. But it is also true that you will find friends that will stand by you no matter what. It's like what they say about divorced wives - living well is the best revenge! Not that it's revenge, but they are trying to punish and control you. rose petal

Es

Big hugs sweet pea it sucks hey. I think in some small way they are jealous, jealous that we are actually living our life and having fun. I have just recently been D\F but I still sent my folks an anniversary present, just to show im the bigger person here, they sent a thank you card addressed to my husband.....stupid fools.

My dad always called me Es but now if he needs to msg me he uses my full name as if its meant to hurt me.

It gets easier hun

es

sweet pea

Thank you so much everyone for your unconditional love and kindness (and humour). Everything you've all said has really helped. I couldn't wait to get up this morning to read all your posts - I just wish all my ex-JW friends could see them! They would see that there is an alternative universe with caring, spiritual, crazy, funny, amazing people and that they too could survive the painful process of leaving.

All your advice proves to me the 'wisdom of the crowd' and I want you all to know I think you are awesome and I am so glad that all of continue to post and share your wisdom even though you probably have to keep saying the same kinds of things over and over again.

Today will be a better day (even though its STILL raining in the height of summer here, silly me, its Wimbledon this week, off course its going to rain for 2 weeks solid.....). Hope you all have a good one.

I keep reminding myself of how wonderful it is not to be preparing to attend a District Convention this year.....

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