You know what I am sorry for?????

by JWdaughter 11 Replies latest jw friends

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  JWdaughter

  I am sorry for being so darn nice to all the JWs that I have met-being all nice and conciliatory.

  I am sorry that when I debate on other boards that I am so darn polite that sometimes one cannot even be sure I am an opposer!

  I am sorry for trying to make nice with JW relatives who treated me like crap.

  I am sorry for not saying what I think when what usually happened was that I would garble it (trying to be 'tactful') and end up sounding like an idiot or a jackass. Or both.

  I am sorry that I have only used the "f" word maybe three times and still feel guilty for every one.

  I am sorry for all the clothes I didn't buy because they were too bright or not modest enough.

  I am sorry for letting my oldest son walk all over me.

  I am sorry for being so nice to in-laws who disrespected me and wanted my money.

  I promise I will try not to make such mistakes again.
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  Gretchen956

  You go, girl!

  Sherry
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  John Doe

  You sound as if you feel you've been powerless and used.

  Don't ever regret trying to be a nice person.
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  JWdaughter

  Nice is good-but I stepped over into doormat land.

  I decided to take back my personal power, to revel in my strengths, and to be true to myself.
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  Gopher

  I promise I will try not to make such mistakes again.

  To go with the apologetic mood everyone is having, I'm "sorry" for butting in to this thread JW-Daughter.

  But seriously I'd get rid of the word "try" in that above sentence. See how this sounds:

  I promise I will not make such mistakes again.

  See doesn't that sound better? Like Yoda said in the Empire Strikes Back (if I remember correctly), "Try NOT, just DO".

  Gopher of the "trying to get rid of the word try" class
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  Hortensia

  the first couple of times you tell someone where to go and how to get there can be scary, but after a while it is very fun.

  Hortensia (of the piss me off - pay the consequences class)
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  bigdreaux

  hortensia, it's better to be pissed off, than pissed on.
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  Hortensia

  You always have an answer that makes me laugh out loud!
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  RollerDave

  JW Daughter,

  Good on you for seeing all that!

  I think you got a good head perched on your shoulders and will do fine.

  Roller
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  JWdaughter

  I had lost this thread and am glad I found it again! Bigdreax, you are fun! Funny! I enjoy your posts, but that was a pisser!

  Gopher, you are exactly right!

  Everyone, thanks! I am getting better at this and its funny, I am getting along better with people and like them more when I stopped trying to placate everyone and make nice all the time.

  I found out that saying what I actually MEAN usually comes off much NICER than trying to couch it in 'nicer' words. Direct is effective and removes a lot of BS. Some days I am nicer by being blunt and honest. With my kids, I was becoming passive aggressive in my anger and trying to get them to do things. Just asking directly, and telling directly seems to have removed a lot of sarcasm. So I guess I am learning more than I thought. I haven't turned into a flaming bitch yet. Darn!