MOTHER LEARNS LATE IN LIFE TO ACCEPT GAY SON AS HE IS
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I raised our two sons and two daughters. One son and both daughters married well. Our other son, "Neil," is gay. He and his partner, "Ron," have been together 15 years, but Neil's father and I never wanted to know Ron because we disapproved of their lifestyle.
When I was 74, my husband died, leaving me in ill health and nearly penniless. No longer able to live alone, I asked my married son and two daughters if I could "visit" each of them for four months a year. (I didn't want to burden any one family, and thought living out of a suitcase would be best for everyone.) All three turned me down. Feeling unwanted, I wanted to die.
When Neil and Ron heard what had happened, they invited me to move across country and live with them. They welcomed me into their home, and even removed a wall between two rooms so I'd have a bedroom with a private bath and sitting room -- although we spend most of our time together.
They also include me in many of their plans. Since I moved in with them, I have traveled more than I have my whole life and seen places I only read about in books. They never mention the fact that they are supporting me, or that I ignored them in the past.
When old friends ask how it feels living with my gay son, I tell them I hope they're lucky enough to have one who will take them in one day. Please continue urging your readers to accept their children as they are. My only regret is that I wasted 15 years. -- GRATEFUL MOM
Dear Abby
by SixofNine 20 Replies latest jw friends
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SixofNine
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nvrgnbk
Thanks for that 6-o-9!
And especially the paragraphs. LOL!
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Dragonlady76
What a great story, thanks for sharing it.
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BFD
I have 2 brothers and two sisters, all married with kids, none active JWs. Back before my mom started shunning me she had fallen on hard times when she and my dad split up and sold thier house. Guess who mommy dearest had to rely on. Yup, her DF'd gay boy! She lived with my partner and me for almost one year. We even bought her a "field service" car. I wonder why her loving brothers and sisters did not come to her rescue.
These are the things I tend to forget about but when I read posts such as these the memories come flooding back and I start to get angry.
BFD
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TheListener
I really liked that. Is it current? I would love to "find" it online and read it to my wife.
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Dragonlady76
I have 2 brothers and two sisters, all married with kids, none active JWs. Back before my mom started shunning me she had fallen on hard times when she and my dad split up and sold thier house. Guess who mommy dearest had to rely on. Yup, her DF'd gay boy! She lived with my partner and me for almost one year. We even bought her a "field service" car. I wonder why her loving brothers and sisters did not come to her rescue.
These are the things I tend to forget about but when I read posts such as these the memories come flooding back and I start to get angry.
BFD
Amazing isn't it. In their eyes you are not fit to even look at, yet when they are in need they will take your help, what a selfish bunch of ass ho**#!
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Sparkplug
Ah Six` If more parents could accept us as we are. What a wonderful world it would be.
Many could take a lesson from this.
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PEC
Religious bigotry sucks.
Philip
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VanillaMocha73
And by their love you will know them.... Shall we tell the story of the Good Samaritan here and ask the JWs "So, who showed love for his
neighbormother, the children who didn't want her or the one who took her in?" 'Nuf said. -
Mum
That's wonderful. My gay cousin and his friends were the ones I could turn to when I first exited the borg.
Those two guys you speak of are my kind of people - caring and giving.
Regards,
SandraC