okay, as most of you know, my sisters and brother in law are in town for a wedding. the girl getting married is a really good friend of mine. we kind of sorta dated, but, since she was not scriptually free, and i wasn't about to wait for that, nothing ever really came of it. we remained good friends even though i stopped going to meetings. her dad is an elder in what used to be my congo. so, she wants me to go to her wedding, and my sisters keep asking me to go, but, they still don't know how much i detest the wts. add to that some heavy drinking, and someone pressing me to go back to meetings, and you have one big contraversy. i do not want to ruin my friends day by starting some commotion, and i can usually keep a cool head, but, i am chomping at the bit to tear into a witness. any witness. so, should i go and literally bite my tongue off, or, would it be better to just not show up at all and hope she doesn't notice. would she even notice? i mean, there will be hundreds of people there. i don't know how long i can put up with the love bombing and pressure to return without ripping someone's head off. espically if i make the mistake of drinking. lol whiskey tends to loosen my tongue.
should i go?
by bigdreaux 15 Replies latest jw friends
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choosing life
Sounds dangerous. If you go, maybe you shouldn't drink. Or if you drink, you shouldn't go. Sounds logical to me if you want to avoid confrontation and not risk upsetting her special occasion.
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bigdreaux
choosing life, there's no such thing as going to a wedding in new orleans and not drinking. even for the witnesses. lol even without drinking, i am rearing for a fight. but, don't want to disappoint my friend.
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nvrgnbk
Your wife will have good advice for you.
No matter what you decide, I got your back.
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noontide
I would say go. Take a small present, wish her and her husband well and leave. Just because you go doesn’t mean you have to stay too long. And by all means don’t drink. Now is your chance to show everyone that leaving the borg does not make you an out of control individual. It will show your class and style and make your friend happy. After you leave, meet up with some friends and then drink up.
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B_Deserter
Have you considered going to the wedding only and not the reception? I have a friends wedding coming up and that's my plan. Just be sure to get there right before it starts, find a quiet seat in the back, and just not go to the reception afterwards. That way, you can avoid any deep embarrassing conversations and still show your friend that you care. I'm sure she'll understand if you don't stick around.
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bigdreaux
that's a really good idea noon. i have pretty much resolved the fact that i need to stay sober. your idea may be perfect. if i'm feeling a bit fiesty, i can just leave.
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bigdreaux
maybe i can offer them a free in home bible study.
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lonelysheep
That's my suggestion, too, B.
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ex-nj-jw
I think noon has an excellent idea! Think you can handle that?
nj