I am angry.

by mtsgrad 21 Replies latest jw friends

  • cognizant dissident
    cognizant dissident

    My marriage is falling apart. I loved her, she no longer loves me.

    Did you notice that you didn't write "I love her", you wrote "I love-d her". Past tense. The same thing you say about her. She no longer loves me. When you use past tense you are saying you no longer love her either. So why are you angry? You both feel the same way. Does someone have to be singularly to blame? Can you both be partly to blame? So what is to be gained by anger or blame? A feeling of victimization? A feeling of self-righteousness? Can you just move beyond anger and blame and just move on and get on with being happy for the rest of your life?

    Cog (just asking)

  • changeling
    changeling

    You may have a point there Cog...

    So, where is the anger coming from? Losing her? Having to face that the marrige failed? Time lost? When you figure that out you can then start to feel better. Give it some thought.

    changeling

  • jaguarbass
    jaguarbass

    • shock followed by initial denial;
    • denial replaced by anger, rage, envy, and resentment;
    • bargaining (with God);
    • depression;
    • ultimate acceptance

    5 steps of the grieving process that most people go through, probably numerous times in their life.

    If you figure out a shortcut from 1 to 5 let me know.

  • Hortensia
    Hortensia

    I'm sorry you feel so angry - I am dealing with the end of my 14 year marriage - I sort of know where you are although our circumstances are different. I hope you keep putting one foot in front of the other. I find it helps me to watch funny shows, read jokes (a recent post about courtrooms was hilarious) and I've done a whole lot of physical work.

  • eclipse
    eclipse

    jaguar bass I think hit it on the head, you are grieving and it will take time to go through all the stages

    that doesn't mean that your feelings are not valid, they are,

    but there is a reason why you are angry...angry at yourself, at her,

    this is normal and all part of the healing that needs to be done...

    does she know how you feel?

    I would tell her...

  • knock knock
    knock knock

    Maybe this will help a little.

    I know someone that went through a divorce and had a hell of a time sleeping for like a year! He told me that one night he couldn't sleep so he turned on the TV to take his mind off things for a bit. Unfortunately, the show he was watching was at a comedy club and when they panned out into the audience who should be sitting there yukking it up but his ex-wife. LOL That had to hurt!

    Ok, so maybe it won't help at all but whatever you do, don't watch TV.

  • prophecor
    prophecor
  • loosie
    loosie

    (((HUGS)))

  • helncon
    helncon

    I hope you guys can work something out

    Helen

  • Anony-Mouse
    Anony-Mouse

    OnTheWayOut,

    I quite enjoyed that magazine cover....

    I dunno why it's called "baby talk" tho. I sure didn't see any babies....Musta been distracted :P .



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