by skeeter1 23 Replies latest social family
Unless you live in a cave in Afghanistan or some other remote area of the earth where you have no access to a decent education, Don't Do It! Been there done that, or rather had it done to me. It scarred me beyond words. Please, see your children as individuals that are separate from you. Let them have their own life. Send them to school.
Sincerly,
changeling
We are looking into homeschool for security reasons. The 14 year old is affiliated with the "wrong crowd" (a gang called the Crips). To get into the gang, you have to kill someone... Her past boyfriends were part of it, and her current boyfriend's family is part of it. She almost failed out of the 8th grade, and failed standardized tests. She was slated to enter the only high school in her county - and there are gangs there. This is rural America, folks. The county has only 23,000 people in it...and there are gangs and I suspect Meth labs.
Sorry, but this are the worst reason to take them out they will not learn to deal with them when they enter the work place which by the way is where those drug dealers really work and sell. Trust me I have seen many kids go to home and turn out to be worse druggies the normal school kids when they grow up. Again it is up to your willingness to get involved at school.
Also my county is one of the worst in the country in methlab consentration. Yet, I know some kids from my hall and work that some how made it through school virtually untouched by it.
5go, has it occurred to you that if she stays and tries to get out she could end up dead?
And to both you and changeling: I'm sorry your experiences were negative.....that doesn't make every homeschooling experience negative. Have you read and done the research on how active parents are in homeschooling their kids? I know a good number of homeschooling groups in my area, the parents are actively involved in educating their children, in getting them out into the real world so that they are gaining real life experience. More often then not, the people I have seen educating their kids at home, have been excellent at getting them involved with dance classes, computer classes, art classes, music classes. Many of these kids are getting great experience working outside of the home at young ages.
Not every parent sticks their kids in front of a tv all day and tells them to learn.
I'm getting really tired of people judging the entire homeschooling experience and community. What about all the Great examples out there? There are several if you care to look for them.
My daughter was homeschooled from age six, when she was physically struck by a teacher. up to graduation.
She did not miss out on ANYTHING worth having and is a very accomplished young woman. She plays multiple instruments, relates well to anyone of any age, is very competent and effective. She will be attending the Mn School of Piano Technology this fall, and intends to get a four-year business degree after that.
Homeschooling is not for everyone, but neither is public school.
If a parent has the ability, the means, and the time to properly school their own child, I feel it is their responsibility to do so. You can't pawn your kid off on a bunch of strangers and seriously expect the result to be as good as properly done homeschooling.
I don't see my daughter as an extension of me, she is a separate person and has always been allowed her own life and as many friends as possible. This just hasn't included turning her over to strangers and subjecting her to the twisted and perverted social order to be found in the misguided halls of public academia.
I am SO SICK AND TIRED of all the fricking BS about homeschooled kids being 'isolated' and not 'socialized!'
If I wanted my kid to be a socialist, or a gang-banger, or a teen pregnancy, I would have sent her to public school.
INSTEAD, she has had Karate, music lessons, participated in local public television, volunteered, been in a garage band, made friends of all ages, shapes, and sizes, and become the wonderful young woman she was meant to be free from peer pressure because her peers are the ones she has chosen instead of a random bunch of kids her own age she is forced to spend most of the day being tormented by.
How's THAT for social!
Skeeter, your reasons seem sound, I hope that goes well. There are few worse things you can do to a child that knowingly put them in the sort of danger that young lady faces if she has to navigate the tricky waters between drugs, gang culture, peer pressure, and the Molotov cocktail of young blood and puberty.
As for you who have had bad homeschooling experiences, I am sorry it didn't work out well for you, but to build idealistic fantasies of how it could have been better if you had gone to public school won't help you now.
If you HAD gone public, you'd have a different set of complaints, it's not the fault of home schooling, it's a fact of life. Don't kid yourself.
Public schools these days are hellholes of peer pressure, liberal moral relativism, artificial social stratification, and institutional mediocrity. Children at their most impressionable ages are subjected to some of the most toxic influences you can imagine outside a kingdom hall all in the name of 'socialization.'
Not everybody CAN homeschool, some that can't try anyway and I'm sorry if any of you experienced this.
But I WILL NOT sit by and watch all homeschoolers painted with that brush without standing up and shouting!
I'm sorry if I'm less coherent than my usual standard, this just gets me so steamed.
Roller (of the 'home school and proud of it' sheep class)
