I like his comment about the white flag - he's going to quit banging his head against the wall. I think I would rephrase that and say he's going to grow up and try to deal with his problems other ways. I had a friend who was a counselor for handicapped people - she said that they often self-medicate with illegal drugs because they just can't handle what has happened to them. I was surprised at that - thought they learned how to adjust to the circumstances but she said that it was too depressing for many of them to deal with all the problems.