I think the fade is working.

by R.F. 20 Replies latest jw experiences

  • R.F.
    R.F.

    I had a conversation with my mother yesterday. By the way i'll say that she's back in the hospital again after a complication. She should be out in a few days, but she's fine though and getting better each day.

    Well anywho, we had this conversation yesterday when I was visiting with her and I happened to mention my desire to go back to college soon. This is kinda how the conversation went.....

    HER - "You aren't forgetting about Jehovah are you? The congregation still needs you even though they did you wrong."

    (by the way, if you don't know what happened and don't feel like checking out my post history, ask me and i'll give you the short of what happened)

    ME - "How is it that i'd forget about Jehovah by going back to college?"

    HER - "I don't know, I was just wondering if you'd ever go back to the meetings again. I'd hate for you to give up on Jehovah because of the congregation."

    You all might think this isn't that much of a big deal but this short conversation means alot to me. For one it shows that she believes i'm discouraged because of the "brothers" and find it hard to go back after getting screwed over. Two, it shows that she, at this point at least, is willing to accept the fact that I may never go back to meetings again. This is helped to be realized by the fact that this is the only time that she's really shown any visible concern about my JW activity. I think that with mentioning college, she feels that my attention has turned completely away from the Borg, which is true, to something "worldly". The thing funny about that though is that she always wanted me to go back to school. Go figure.

    My dad on the other hand thinks i'm just going through a phase. He says he's been where i've been, and that once you quit going it's hard to go back. He usually just asks me about meetings after someone else in the congregation does. I'm of the mind to think that if no one asked him about me, he wouldn't mention anything either.

    My congregational responsibilities are slowly but steadily dwindling, and i'm gaining the reputation in the congregation as being one of those that were super strong in the truth but is falling away. I'm not even so nervous about the "friends" stopping by anymore. They really don't know what to say to me anymore. I'm receiving less and less calls and visits from them as time goes by though. I do have a couple of close JW friends that stop by every couple of days. They're the only ones i'm always glad to see, so hopefully I won't ever have to disassociate and lose them.

    I've been running into old acquaintances like crazy lately, and I see some potential close friendships there, so maybe there's hope for my social base after all since! I still wish I had more friends though, but like I said, i'm sure that will come along in time.

    So all is good so far. Just taking it one day at a time.

  • sweet pea
    sweet pea

    Glad to hear all is going as planned.

    Hope mum is better soon.

    New friendships will take time but I'm sure you will make some great friendships with ones who will care about you unconditionally.

    Way to go R.F.!

  • greendawn
    greendawn

    Things seem to be going rather well, some people prolong their fade until they establish some good friendships outside the org and then make the final move.

    It's interesting how the dubs see abandoning the WTS as abandoning God, through the FDS propaganda they have weaved the two so closely together they can no longer separate them.

  • R.F.
    R.F.
    Things seem to be going rather well, some people prolong their fade until they establish some good friendships outside the org and then make the final move.

    In many ways, I wish this was the case with my situation, but my circumstances seemed to be perfect for a successful fade at the present time.

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    RF

    I am so proud of you

    purps

  • choosing life
    choosing life

    Sounds like things are going well. Keep up the good work and I think college is a perfect place to make some real friends. Enjoy!

  • R.F.
    R.F.
    I think college is a perfect place to make some real friends

    True. When I was in the first time I met some very interesting people, but I let them go because of the Borg. Stupid me.

  • R.F.
    R.F.

    ...and thank you very much Purps!

  • Mum
    Mum

    Good going, R.F. Those nasty elders did you a favor and garnered you some sympathy, it seems. Glad it backfired! May you continue with smooth sailing on your drift out to freedom.

    Regards,

    SandraC

  • changeling
    changeling

    Glad to hear it. My your peaceful fade continue...

    changeling

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