My Ex and the "Holier Than Thou" Attitude

by R.F. 18 Replies latest jw experiences

  • R.F.
    R.F.

    My ex-fiancee called me this morning and I answered. I answered because she called from a different number. I must say that she called at a very early hour this morning and I was still half asleep. So after about a 2 minute conversation, I dismissed myself. She tried to call me 15 minutes later, and then another 15 minutes after that.

    Later this evening she tried calling twice, then she left a voicemail saying along these lines.....

    That wonders why I don't answer her calls and that i'm obviously losing my spirituality, so she's done with trying to reach me and that she's going to just move on with her life. I've already moved on with my life, why can't she? Ok, she's the one that lied about me and my family to the elders and everyone else to make herself look good, thus causing most of everyone in the congo to view me as a jerk. And who is she to say i've lost my spirituality just because I don't go to meetings anymore but she does? She, in recent weeks, had done something that is past congregational judicial action. I'm still waiting to see if CRIMINAL charges will be brought against her for what she's done to another person.

    This is just another reason # 3,169 why i'm not a JW and how it's only shown me lately that SOME JWs don't have the mental screws tightened all the way.

    I think i've lost some brain function in dealing with her for so long....................

    .........................seriously.

    R.F.

  • collegegirl21
    collegegirl21

    I've told you numerous times that you can do better! It will be okay, she will eventually get the hint. It just takes some "slower" people a little longer than others to realize that you are not interested.

    Criminal charges? Oh mylanta!

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    of all the things you have dealt with to make changes in your life

    breaking off with her was the healthiest thing you have done IMO

    your brain cells will repair and revive the longer you are away.

    purps

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    Your other thread was very positive, about your mother.

    This one actually leads to a positive, also- "she's going to just move on with her life. "

    That means she will stop pestering you.
    As far as judging your spirituality, try to remember that this is the JW training.
    Every faithful JW judges the others by their meeting attendance.

    Forget about it.

  • R.F.
    R.F.

    I will have to just wait and see. She's said before that she was going to just move on with her life. Only time will tell.

  • greendawn
    greendawn

    You detected that well leaving the JWs doesn't mean a loss of spirituality and in many cases it can mean an improvement. But they are so mind conditioned they can't differentiate between being spiritual and being a dub that the two are not one and the same.

  • R.F.
    R.F.

    So according to her at least.....you can be a hateful, law-breaking, contention-stirring, meeting attender and you you're in Jehovah's favor. If you aren't at the meetings no matter how you are, or how close you are to imitating Jesus you're nothing.

    I can't believe I used to go along with this WT logic.

  • changeling
    changeling

    She sounds like a stalker.

  • BlackPearl
    BlackPearl

    Move it lady! Hahaha

  • Scully
    Scully

    Time for a restraining order. This is definitely harassment, and walking a fine line up to stalking too.

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