Your daughter should be commend. Definitely tell his parents. And let them (and the boy) know that the next time the police will be called. Lives are at stake.
changeling
When a Friend is Driving Drunk. What to do????
by horrible life 23 Replies latest jw friends
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ferret
Definitely call the police is it worse for him to get arrested or for someone to get killed. Also you might have saved his life, fortunately he did not get in an accident, And also it might have discouraged him from driving drunk again, you did him no favor imho.
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horrible life
Thank you all for responding. I am leaning towards Seeker4's suggestion. I talked to my husband, and he said that the kid may have been exaggerating being drunk, to show off. But you never know. He told our daughter to just come home if that happened again, to not get out on the road. Well that makes her want to call.
The boy will be coming into the office where I work, Tuesday, on his way to college. I think I will talk to the Doctor I work for, and get her to talk to him. She really likes him, and I think, may be able to get through. He of course, will know who told her, but, who cares. I could tell worse authorities, or parents.
Do you think this would help?? I also looked up MADD, and there isn't a chapter anywhere near us.
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delilah
It's important for everyone to know, that a friend does not allow a friend, to drive drunk. We must all do our part, to make sure they do not get behind the wheel after they have been drinking. Whether it be taking their keys as soon as they arrive to a party, or arranging for them to spend the night, or calling a cab, or the police, if they refuse to stay put.
Tonight, I received sad news, that a good friend of ours, had a car accident, at 2 am, thismorning. They found his body, thrown from the car, in a pond. He was old enough to know better.....he'd driven drunk, many, many times before. While this news has shocked, and saddened my husband and I, we are not surprised.
The real sad thing is, he leaves behind two impressionable young teenaged sons, who have witnessed him drinking and driving many times over the years. My hope is, they learn that what happened to their father, could very well happen to anyone, who drinks, then gets behind the wheel. Thank god he did not kill anyone else.
R.I.P Bob.
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horrible life
Delilah, I am so sorry for your loss.
I discussed with my daughter, the "Friends don't let Friends drive drunk". I told her that if her plans for the evening get toasted, then, so be it. To take the keys. With the exception, of not hopping onto the vehicle, and risking being drug down the street.
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Bobbi
This summer our local daycare lost a 22 year old woman to drunk driving. She was intelligent, fabulous with the kids and a loving daughter. She and 3 friends went to a party and knew they would be drinking. Later that night she and her friends got back into the car and started off. On their way home, she drove, speeding, into the back of a parked road repair machine. She died. One of her friends who was passed out drunk in the back seat was thrown from the car. She was the only one who died that night but it could have been prevented. Her parents, family, friends and co-workers are grieving, not to mention all the little kids who don't understand why she didn't come back. Such a stupid way to die. Take the keys, call the police or knock 'em over the head, just don't them a friend or stranger drive impaired. That goes for people who are too tired to drive.
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SnakesInTheTower
call the cops, call the parents (not necessarily in that order, your choice)
I was nearly killed by a drunk driver a few weeks back (I posted this somewhere here)...only a last second swerve on my part meant that someone else died instead of me...I am now even more cognizant of these idiots on the road and wont hesitate to turn them in....just my opinion.
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delilah
I discussed with my daughter, the "Friends don't let Friends drive drunk". I told her that if her plans for the evening get toasted, then, so be it. To take the keys. With the exception, of not hopping onto the vehicle, and risking being drug down the street.
Good for you, HL. This is extremely important for our teens to understand, that their drunk friends may well in fact become quite beligerant, and perhaps even ugly with them, but they cannot give in, and let them drive away. They will sober up the next morning, and be grateful that they had friends who cared enough to hold them back from getting behind the wheel.
Nor, can they EVER get in the car with a drunk driver. NEVER. I have another very close friend who lost her sister to a drunk driver, because she made a last minute decision to get into the car with someone who she knew had been drinking. She died a few minutes later.
Snakes, I'm glad you are still with us. What a scary ordeal.
Dee
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Abaddon
Five of the teenagers did the smart but easy thing; ignore the a'hole.
Two did the smart and brave thing; call him on it
One did what I'd expect my daughter to do; call me (hopefully after calling HIM on it)
You dropped the ball; sorry, but there it is. You even wimped on calling his granny.
Unless they were close enough I knew calling granny would result in a more rapid and far more unpleasent reaction than calling the cops, I'd have called the cops.
It's 'nice' that you showed regard to his future, but as he showed none to either his or other people's futures, you extended him a courtesy he doesn't grant others.
One amusing ad-hoc punishment for someone who is reisting attempts to stop them going to their car drunk is to have someone go and let their tyres down (all of 'em) whilst final persuation is attempted. Watching someone change a tyre drunk is a laugh, especially if they are so drunk they don't notice they are all flat first...
... and in above scenario if final persuation does work, in the morning knowing that people were so convinced you were going to drive drunk they let all your tyres down is a sobering wake-up.
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Stealth453
I would have called the police and given them as many details as possible.
The charges would be a lot less drastic than the consequences had he killed someone.
For a teenager driving drunk, it would be a much wiser lesson to spend a few days in jail, than a lifetime regretting the damage that person caused.
Drinking and driving needs to be stopped.....NOW