Past few days have been very emotional for me ,when will it get better ? (page 2)

BluesBrother

troubled mind

Having lost both parents, I can feel for you ....

Chloe

(((hugs))) I can really relate. I lost my dad two months ago and today would have been his 84th birthday. I have yet to go through his things.

It has been 2 years since my Grandmother passed. I had to help my mother go thru her things almost withing hours of her passing due to having get the house on the market.

At the time it was terrible, many tears and much heartache. Now I have a giggle when I think about what my Gramma would have said about me going thru her "unmentionables". Not to mention, the stacks of shoes she had. We found my grandfathers hearing aid still in his bedside table and he had passed a few years before her. We found a shirt she borrowed from me when I was teenager tucked into a cedar chest with some very racy nighties and the dresses she wore to her children's weddings.

In time the pain dulls and the good memories surface. Cry, it helps.

Bobbi (wishing gramma was still around to play cards with)

Sassy

That has to be hard... (((HUG)))))

I lost my dad in May and we haven't gone through his things yet.. not looking forward to it..

troubled mind

When I came home yesterday I put all the garbage in my trunk ,because my Dad is limited to two bags .

I just came in from checking my car....SHIT ....there was one bag of things I wanted to keep and .........I just realized that bag went out with the garbage this morning ! Just called my sister to see if I had left it there ..no......no it WAS in the garbage and is gone now .....God I feel like dirt so freakin stupid ....I was in such a hurry to get the garbage out this morning I forgot about that bag . It had memento's from mom's life stuff she had saved since childhood. I am going to be sick

ex-nj-jw

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((troubled mind))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

nj

changeling

It will pass. And you are getting to know her a little better, that's kinda cool.

changeling

yesidid

I was in such a hurry to get the garbage out this morning I forgot about that bag . It had memento's from mom's life stuff she had saved since childhood. I am going to be sick

That must have been so hard to cope with.

Yes I agree, going through your mother's treasures is going to be among the worst hours of your life.

Many of us have that behind us now, so we really do understand your pain.

Crying and sharing with others helps. Come back and vent as you need.

Hugs

yesidid

Snoozy

Troubled Mind...I am so sorry you had to be the one to do that. My Dad also made me clean my Mom's stuff out. I found her diary from when she was a teenager. I cried all the way through it. Her first kiss...the boys she dated and the sones she called "stupid"..one of whom she married It was like I was seeing her as a person for the first time. I so wanted to put my arms around her and give her a big hug.We never know what went through our parents minds when they were younger..it was like seeing her for the first time.

Same with my Dad's stuff when he died. All his war memories in pictures..medals..newspaper clippings..I cried again.

My parents weren't JW's but my mom had a lot of mental health problems from the time she was 30 years old..so I just about raised myself.

And I so can relate to your Mom being a JW..sounds a lot like what I went through with my JW hubby and his family.

My heart goes out to you..no matter how old they are when they pass..we still want to say.."But I wasn't through with them yet!"

Big hugs for your loss..Snoozy

skeeter1

I'm so sorry.

You will find times when you will miss your mother terribly. Sometimes, it's understandable as when you're going through her things. Other times, it will just come out of the blue.

I wish I could give you a hug.

Skeeter

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