For those of you who have loved ones on the inside.... (page 2)

Hermano

Brunnhilde and Insomniac are correct about the Tacoma Dome parking lot scandal. Just another indicator that the WTS doesn't care about individuals, just about dollars.

I know that some on this board say we should just get on with our lives, and I am all for that. But sometimes I feel like how can they get away with this bullsh!t?! The world must know!!!!! Or at least, the people I love.

moshe

I was turned in to the " loving shepherds" in the congr. by my wife, never got df but i lost her after 25 years.

sspo, I remember watching your meltdown and reliving what happened to my marriage. I left the WT Society and she did , too, but it was about 10 years later after she divorced me. So, if you can keep your mouth shut for 10 years, their is hope for saving a marriage, I guess.

esw1966

I'm with you, Hermano...

I've gone through the same thing. I want my 3 daughters out, my father, and my sister. It kills me. But I am beginning to think live and let live; live a good life; continue to offer myself to them in a positive way; and wait for THEM to come to me.

It is SLOW and PAINFUL. I'm not sure it will ever happen, but sending emails explaining everything has not worked for me either.

Sometimes to find truth you have to LOOK for it. You can't force someone to COME to it.

I sure wish one could. I'm trying to get on with my new life and send my loved ones a letter from time to time just about simple, positive, loving notes to let them know I care and love them. Maybe one day what happened to me will happen to them and they will need a listening ear.

I hope the best for you!

Ethan

LoverOfTruth

I carried that "anger" in me for many years. I ended up Divorcing my husband after nearly 23 years of marriage.

LoverOfTruth

I forgot to mention he promised to do Anything to keep me from leaving but Begged me NOT to ask him to Leave his Religion! With that said, I don't think some are able to break free emotionally. Very sad.

PoppyR

Every one of my family members is on the inside, and it hurts very much. But as has been said, it does no good to burst.

Recently I couldn't hold it all in when my sister said something very pious to me about how she prayed I'd return, and I live to regret it, she hasnt' spoken to me since, and now there is a definite step even further away from the rest of the family because I am considered an apostate, simply because I told her that I had deliberately left the organisation and would on no account be returning.

Stay strong, stay loving, make real friends, it takes time and it's easy to let the bitterness take over, try not to let it.

Poppy

unique1

I tried to talk to them about it and their reasoning just keeps going in circles not proving anything and then when you show them their circular reasoning they just start yelling. I gave up. Yes I do want to shake some sense into them. I mean, how could they produce such an intelligent child and be so stupid themselves???

OnTheWayOut

I am with you, Hermano. Some days, I just accept that my wife chooses to remain a JW,
and other days, I want to show her everything that proves it is all nonsense. I recognize
that this won't work, and will only make her believe Satan got to me.

You said: "I want to walk into a kingdom hall and take over the mike and tell them all the truth."

Yes, there are days when I would love to try to win over everyone for their own good, and
so they stop wondering what's wrong with me. The few witnesses I still cross paths with
because of the wife, they act like I should be depressed and miserable. While that's a
great excuse for a fader, I didn't use it, so I am not playing up any depression. My wife's
close friend asks, "Are you still studying?" I answer, "Yes." If only she would read the
things I study- it would really surprise her.

I have some days where I am busy with other things or forget totally about JW's. Then
something brings me back to my bitterness.

Hermano

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I realize what everyone said is true, you have to take it slow and give them time. Sometimes it's so difficult to be patient!

For those of you who have loved ones on the inside....

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