If ur child died,would u visit the grave and always "talk" to them?

by fedorE 22 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

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  purplesofa

  yes i would
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  Cindi_67

  I definitely would. Wheather we believe that there's life after death or not, I would still visit their grave, talk to them.
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  sandy

  I have no strong beliefs about what happens after death but I would go to the grave site and talk with my son/daughter or any loved one very dear to me. Sometimes I think about going to my grandfather's grave and talking to him to try and feel some connection but I've never done it.
  
  But for my child, husband, mother/father, or sibling I would imagine it could be very good therapy. I can't say for sure though how long I'd do it.
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  Bumble Bee

  I've never lost a child, but I have lost both parents. I never really knew the exact location of my mothers grave (she died when I was very young and we moved from the area). A couple of years ago I went to the cemetary and found it. Maybe because I was so young and didn't really remember her, it held no special significance for me.

  My father was cremated, and my mother still has his ashes and doesn't know what to do with them, so there is nothing there to visit either. When I feel the need to be close to my father, I go to the places he liked, not always the actual physical places he went to, but similar, and reflect on him. He is always in my thoughts.

  BB
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  SPAZnik

  I don't know. Probably I would just carry them in my heart/mind/memory. I don't even go to funerals. However, if I thought for some reason that having a specific "place" to visit to go to might get me out of the dark and help me "compartmentalize" my grief w the assistance of sensory cues or provide a peaceful place to simply remember sweet memories, then yes, I might go to the park where their name is on a plaque. Always is a strong word. I grew up near a cemetery. Every so often I go through one. Usually I just enjoy the trees and pathways. Sometimes it gives me pause to reflect on history and human mortality and all the people still alive coping with loved ones passing. I don't mind the experience. It reminds me to be grateful for every breath. I might feel differently if someone I loved was there. Hopefully I'll never have to know the answer to this question. If it were my parents or my siblings or my spouse, I could see visiting their "resting place" every so often when I got to missing them. If it were me, I'd want everyone to get on with life, but think about me at least once a decade. ;)
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  Quandry

  That's a good question. After my father died, I took my mother to visit his grave every time I visited her. It is kind of frustrating, knowing they are "so close" yet so far. Also, I had kind of a feeling of suffocation knowing that he is in a vault with lots of dirt on top. Wierd, because obviously he can't be trying to get out....I don't know if I might have similar feelings if my child died, but it would be extremely hard to deal with if I did.

  Now, my mother is dead. I have not been back to visit either one of their graves in awhile. I still grieve for them.....

  I can only say that I cry for each one of you that has lost a child and hope that I die before my child does.
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  willyloman

  If it gives you comfort, do it.

  The freedom to think and say that that is the reason I left dubdom.
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  BizzyBee

  C. S. Lewis wrote the seminal work, A Grief Observed, when his beloved wife died. He said, "The act of living is different all through. Her absence is like the sky, spread over everything." It's like that.
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  SPAZnik

  Wow, Bizzybee, thank you for sharing that.
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  White Dove

  Yes, I'd visit the grave and talk to her/him.

  I don't ever want to outlive my children.

  Couldn't do it.