by R.F. 47 Replies latest jw experiences
It's time to be proactive:
1) File a harassement charge against her and get a restraining order that includes she is not to call you.
2) Go to the Elders and let them know you have filed a harassment charge and requested a retraining order against her.
3) Let her know you have taken these steps.
You could write a DA letter and throw it in the elders and your ex's face.
Sounds like a so called win/win to me.
I wonder if the Elders™ would construe any legal injunctions against her as a form of Bringing Reproach on Jehovah™, and use that against you in order to convene a Judicial Committee™ with the intent of DFing you?
It might be in your best interests to approach the Elders™ yourself, discuss with them the Spiritual™ impact her harassment is having on you (you feel Stumbled™ and unnecessarily conspicuous due to her malicious gossip which is defamatory and embarrassed to go to the KH on account of the gossip that has gotten back to you). They'll go after her - they love ragging on Sisters™ for malicious gossip and telling tales and damaging reputations of Brothers™. Tell them that you really do not want to drag this before a Worldly™ court due to the possibility of Bringing Reproach on Jehovah™, but if the Brothers™ cannot get her to follow their counsel for her to act in a more dignified Christian manner, then you will feel that you have no other recourse.
RF...
who gives a crap what the Elders TM are going to do or not do....a JW friend of mine got screwed over by the Elders TM in two different congos by his wife and his MIL because he did not want to bring Reproach on Jehovah's Name TM .....blah blah blah and did not take action at the time. They wanted him to "just allow yourself to be wronged ® " I think he is about to get a divorce and DA...maybe in the same day!
I say if you can afford it, get the lawyer to draw up the letter and the Order of Protection. Send copies to the Elders TM . At least then you can take legal action against her if she continues. And be premptive with the Elders TM . Let them know in writing that she is harrasing you.
Heeeyyyyy, RF...I wonder...if you get a restraining order against your ex to stay 200 feet away from you, does that mean she or you cannot go to the Kingdom Hall TM anymore? What a great excuse for you to use... "uh, Brothers TM , I am sorry I miss so many Meetings TM , but I have a restraining order Sister Basketcase and she insists on attending this congregation...what can I do but stay away...we dont want to Bring Reproach On Jehovah TM by having the police here escorting her out....." (siggghhhh)
SnakesInTheTower (of the "Never wants to bring Reproach TM on Jehovah TM and his Loving Organization TM " Sheep Class)
PS to Scully....ROFL, you kill me with all those little TM symbols over all the JW buzz words. Is that a record for most JW buzz words in one post? LMAO
She didn't use to be a trouble maker. She's changed so much since we've parted ways. I'm still quite shocked by some of the things she's done since then. Her mother told me about it a bit.
You've answered you're own question WHY...a women's scorn.
The best way to deal with her is to ignore her. Eventually she will see that her childish attention emotional blackmail antics is not working. If you take the bait she will think she is winning youre attentions.
Ignore, ignore and ignore.
The best way to deal with her is to ignore her. Eventually she will see that her childish attention emotional blackmail antics is not working. If you take the bait she will think she is winning youre attentions.
Ignore, ignore and ignore.
I think this is the best strategy to take right now. She feeds on a negative reaction from me and it seems like it's all she's trying to get.
Usually, if someone feels the need to constantly tell you that they have moved on, the opposite is true, but you already know that!
I'd say that changing your phone number(s), and make sure your land line is unlisted (if you have one) If she shows up in person when she can no longer harass you by phone, then worry about a restraining order. But given that you say she is really mentally ill, a restraining order could be mostly useless. Mentally ill people tend to think that the law applies to everyone but them.
You know how I feel about the girl who is a few french fries short of a happy meal! Its like she is trying to make you jealous so you can realize "what you have lost." I've pulled that game before, but just don't let her get to you. Its not worth it! And she obviously has proven she's not worth it.
