Do you expect the man in the marriage to be strong.

by free2beme 79 Replies latest jw friends

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  Nosferatu

  A woman with high self esteem doesn't need a man to make them feel like a woman or do anything else for them.

  If there is no man to make her feel like a woman, then is she really a woman?

  They especially don't want a man that attempts to control or demean them.

  Nobody wants that. However, along with the "controlling" or "demeaning" personality comes a man who has the confidence to stand up for himself and has the ability to tell a woman the dreaded "N" word. A man with confidence is an attractive man, even if it's accompanied by abuse.

  Feminized, wimpy men don't use the "N" word. They're too afraid to displease the woman, so they give her anything she wants.
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  eclipse

  That was absolutely disgusting to read, nos.

  Seriously warped thinking.
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  John Doe

  Alas, I make an attempt to troll in good faith, and fail to elicit even one response. Have I become a class clown?
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  snowbird

  A man with confidence is an attractive man, even if it's accompanied by abuse.

  Am I seeing what I am seeing?

  Sylvia
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  ex-nj-jw

  If there is no man to make her feel like a woman, then is she really a woman?

  Silly boy, a woman does not need a man to define her womanhood. Something else you will learn when and if you mature.

  However, along with the "controlling" or "demeaning" personality comes a man who has the confidence to stand up for himself and has the ability to tell a woman the dreaded "N" word. .

  A woman who is independant and self sufficient doesn't need a man to tell her NO. She has the resources to do for herself, therefore she doesn't need to worry about someone controlling and/or telling her no to anything. One more thing you may learn when you mature.

  A man with confidence is an attractive man, even if it's accompanied by abuse

  Not attractive at all!

  nj
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  eclipse

  JD
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  Nosferatu

  That was absolutely disgusting to read, nos.

  Seriously warped thinking.

  How is it warped? This is what I see in day to day life. Again, it's the "Nice Guy" vs "Jerk" dynamic. The nice guy stays lonely and the jerk gets all the women. I'm merely explaining how it works.

  Try to find a "nice guy" who has the kind of confidence that attracts women. And I mean his confidence shines without using words. You're going to be searching for a long time. The "jerk" just doesn't give a shit what the woman thinks. While this isn't a bad trait in itself, using it to control and abuse women is wrong.

  That is the difference. It's the abuse of power and respect that I don't agree with. Unfortunately, it resides in most of the truly "confident" men out there. The happy medium is a rare find.
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  eclipse

  It has been my experience that the majority of men are not jerks or abusive.

  There are far more nice guys than bad ones.

  I happen to think highly of men, hence why I said your thinking was warped.

  But perhaps I should of not been so harsh.

  You were only sharing your perspective.

  Mine is just different than yours.

  Peace.
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  Nosferatu

  There are far more nice guys than bad ones.

  and I agree 100%. But the bad ones don't even have to try to attract women. They just do.
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  Twitch

  A question to the women;

  What is it in a guy that you see as strength?

  And I pose the question more to the women who've been with their man for the long haul (not exclusively of course)

  Curious George :)