How to Ruin a Childhood

by WTWizard 16 Replies latest jw experiences

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    Here is one effect of our going out in field circus, that they will not tell you about. No, not the getting persecuted. No, not that last-call syndrome where the last call takes forever. This is even worse, and I could have been guilty of it myself even if I didn't conduct a study from it myself. I could have set someone else up for it, and later led to this type of tragedy.

    You go to the door, and there is a family with two small children. The older one is about 6; the other, about 3. The birthdays have passed, and it is close to summer. The mother accepts the magazines readily, and the father calls back and wants a study. They have fallen for the scam. But this disrupts plans for summer vacation. You see, the 6-year old remembers that they were supposed to be going to Canada, and it was to be a week trip (with an intermediate stop). That trip is in a couple of months, but now they are studying the Bible (at least the NWT) with the help of the Bible Teach book.

    Within that month, both parents are going to meetings regularly. And pretty soon, there is a talk about sacrificing the money for the vacation to put in the Worldwide Pedophile Protection Work. Which is exactly what they do; besides, the Grand Boasting Session is the same week that they were going to Canada. So much for that trip!

    Well, the older child is disappointed. The younger one really doesn't understand what is going on, but this makes trouble since the older one is griping and belly-aching about not being able to go to Canada. They get dragged to the Grand Boasting Session instead, and both are acting up continually (the younger one because of not being able to sit still for 8 hours; the older one from being pxxxed at losing the real vacation. Of course, they are told that Satan is using the children to make it difficult, which only eggs on the parents that much more to continue the study. There is no fun that summer.

    Soon after, the holidays come up. The 6-year old now remembers what a wonderful Christmas it was the past 2 years; the younger one probably doesn't remember but is still able to comprehend that this year is not as exciting as last. And, since the older one is in school, it creates problems when the holiday parties start (not to mention that they have trouble staying up late on meeting nights and then having tests the next day). Basically, instead of a nice beautiful Christmas tree, there is nothing but a growing collection of Puketower literature. Instead of a round of presents, there is a round of service (by now, the parents are unbaptized publishers). Instead of Christmas music, there is Kingdumb Sxxx. Instead of the feast, there is another lunch of fast, good-tasting poison. This year is definitely nothing like the past several.

    Another year comes up. Now, vacation season comes, and this time nothing is planned. Instead, service all summer long. There are no campouts or parties this time. The older child, now 7, misses out on the birthday party--there is absolutely no fun on that first warm day of the season, except going out in field circus and talk of the parents' getting baptized in lieu of any fun.

    Ultimately, both children get forced to get baptized with initiatory coercion from the parents and the hounders. They do poorly in school, because they are too tired from those boasting sessions every Thursday night. They are not able to do field trips or extracurricular activities. There are no vacations or other fun, except those damn Grand Boasting Sessions. No college, either--both are stuck with their parents long after the age of 21. Not to mention that they have missed out on all the fun, plus they got all the bitter disappointment and many an unnecessary spanking from this. What a waste!

    Hopefully, none of the people I called on wound up fitting this description. But, knowing the way this spreads, there is the danger that someone I initiated the call on (and someone else finished, in another state) had this kind of a call. This illustrates the danger of initiating the use of coercion: if one person picks up the virus, they could cause all kinds of havoc that would not have existed had you not knocked on the doors.

    Ted Jaracz, ARE YOU HAPPY NOW THAT YOU HAVE RUINED MANY CHILDHOODS LIKE THIS?

  • mouthy
    mouthy

    they could cause all kinds of havoc that would not have existed had you not knocked on the doors.

    Ted Jaracz, ARE YOU HAPPY NOW THAT YOU HAVE RUINED MANY CHILDHOODS LIKE THIS?

    Wasnt only Ted that is guilty I DID IT TOO!!! You messed up my day

  • brinjen
    brinjen

    It's something we all have to deal with in one way or another.

    Bottom line is, we didn't know any better at the time...

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    You wouldn't have ruined childhoods without someone to initiate the use of fraud to get you in. And, in turn, that person had someone else initiate fraud to get them in. It all goes back to the people at the top. Without them, the whole chain would have collapsed, and the ones in the bottom would stop knocking on those doors. And then the children wouldn't have to go through this.

    I hope that at least one person on their way to having this happens finds this site and investigates the other apostate sites. I hope to save as many childhoods, or more, from this kind of destruction as/than I ruined or helped ruin knocking on the doors. No, I cannot save the childhoods I had a share in ruining, but I can help stop someone else from having the same thing happen.

  • Leolaia
    Leolaia

    Congratulations, you just described my childhood....although I had it easier beacuse my dad remained an UBM so we got a little bit of the holidays through his family. But yeah, I was 6 years old when my mom began studying. And the birthdays and holidays faded away like that. And by the time I was 7, I was attending three meetings a week. :(

  • bluesmurf92
    bluesmurf92

    Sounds familiar. No Holidays or Birthdays growing up. Lots of spankings, which gradually turned to standing in the corner until we couldn't stand any longer. Told repeatedly that school is an evil place which turns kids away from their parents. Cowering as my JW dad towered over me, screaming that I was doomed to go to hell, at the tender age of 6. I can even thank my dad, his beliefs, & his temper for my poor eyesight.

  • greendawn
    greendawn

    That's one good reason for thinking dubs not to get involved in persuading people to enter into this diabolical cult, some even lost children to the blood ban after becoming JWs by obeying their insane doctrine.

    They certainly have no understanding for the needs of children growing up in an overly strict religious ambience.

  • Anti-Christ
    Anti-Christ
    They certainly have no understanding for the needs of children growing up in an overly strict religious ambiance.

    I agree 100%. How could a bunch of elderly men living in a monastery know any thing about raising children in the real world when they don't even have to go to work to support a family?

  • Bobbi
    Bobbi

    I never really thought about the late meeting nights and how that affected my learning. I did pretty well in school until Mom started taking us to meetings on weeknights. Also no one noticed I couldn't read until grade two when the teacher told my mom. So much for the theory that witness kids read sooner than non Dubs.

    Bobbi

  • Junction-Guy
    Junction-Guy

    Dont forget the lack of dating in the teens, and the lack of healthy appreciation for the opposite sex, sure to cause many sexual dysfunctions and set them up for future marital problems and gender dysfunctions.

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