@Rattigan: you do realize that stated weaselwords in the publications is not actual policy as practiced by the WTBTS, such as the child abuse issue, they state they inform the authorities yet they privately instruct elders not to follow that advice, they state publicly the meetings are open to the public and hell, that the Watchtower study is a discussion, but they will sure make you uncomfortable and may even kick you out if you’re even the slightest bit heterodox. They state in the article that elders should not go poking around in a married couple’s business, anyone ever been involved in a judicial committee knows exactly that isn’t the case and the admonition in the elder manual is to not just poke around but keep detailed records.
Cults do this all the time, there is an inside and an outside language and they intentionally practice double speak. Every cult does this, the Christian Scientists do it, the JWs do it, the Mormons do it, they say Jesus and you think they’re talking about the Christian Jesus person, but internally they have an entirely different language to deconstruct and reconstruct who this Jesus is, in Mormonism he’s a Spirit Child and you may think that is just odd language, but in Mormonism everyone making the ascent to the temple (donating their wealth towards the church on the way) can likewise become a Spirit Child (an equal to Jesus). And that applies to every piece of thing they write, they write suggestion, but if you don’t take it as a rule you are spiritually weak which is not just that you’re slacking a bit, it’s that you’re a bad person that should be shunned.