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Quandry

Welcome to the forum!!

You sound like an upbeat, positive person. Glad you are doing so well!!

journey-on

Welcome, Rebornagain.

You sound like a Seeker of Truth. Plain and simple. And isn't it refreshing to feel the freedom to seek where and

how you choose? Looking so forward to your future posts.................Journey-on

aint that just the damn truth.......... you are ok as a "worldly person" can wear whatever you want to the hall......... to suck you in. then once you are baptized the gloves come off. you must wear elder body approved clothing and have the same haircut. must put in a minimum of national average field circus numbers. must drive a 4 door car.... must never ever ever be alone with anyone of the opposite sex because fornication will ALWAYS result. then if you dont meet these lofty requirements..... your bad association, regardless of your circumstances. so the so called GOOD dubs wont associate with you.......... so whos left........ no friends allowed unless they are dubs so when you leave........... you have NO friends who arent dubs.

then years later after you have been freed............................. I still find myself judgeing.... WTF

I didnt like to be judged and yet its natural to do it because its been so ingrained into how we thought as dubs....... i still have to make myself quit and think....... but god loves whoever regardless and thank god for that cause tahts the only way he is gonna love me.

lol welcome and enjoy

cyd0099

Hello fellow washingtonian!

Any time spent not living is regrettable. The effects that lingered after my fade hindered my growth as a person. I feel better now but all that time wasted.

REBORNAGAIN

Your comments awaken in me the memories I had of all the demands the WTBTS put on us. You're so right about what we were supposed to wear, how long the guys hair was supposed to be, mustache or no mustache, depending on the congregation. My experience since leaving them has revealed to me, that no matter what we were forbidden to do, if it's meant to be, it will happen anyway. People can keep us from being with someone, but it didn't stop me. It took me 35 years to be with a couple of guys I was forbidden to be with back when I was 16/17 yrs. old. We had a ball seeing each other again.

I got disfellowshipped unjustly, but hey....they all treated me as if I was already DF beforehand, so when I was officially, it was no different.

Sorry to hear about your tendencies to still judge others. I hate that about me as well. At times I even resort to not looking at someone when I walk down the street, afraid I'll think something dumb about them. I'd rather not look to avoid having something to judge.

God does love us, each and everyone of us. He's non-judgmental and if we are made in His image, we should reflect his attitude as well. I try and I know he forgives us when we fail and He doesn't punish us like the JW's do with their DF'ing and pointing of fingers.

Thanks for all the welcomes...I fit right in here. Nice to have sincere friends and not these supeficial "Because-we-have-to" friends.

LINDA

REBORNAGAIN

All that time wasted? Tell me about it. A BIG waste. But I look at the positive side, I still have a never-ending future whether in Heaven, The Other Side or wherever. A future where I can do exactly what God had planned for me all along.

Btw, what city do you live in? I'm up in Bellingham.

LINDA

primitivegenius

the best thing ever............. looking down your nose at a brother who has omg GASP side burns down to his ears........... wth is wrong with me lol hahahaha

life outside the borg is sooooooooooo much grander....... still hard to put things to right but god helps... he did give us those um ... what were they called again..... the ten suggestions......... do unto others.........

i let anyone belive what they want now......... but when the witnesses shun me........... i just pity them (MR T Voice) and when i tell them ill pray for them........... they go absolutely balistic............ its HILARIOUS.

my own sister said DONT BOTHER........... as if she is the only one with the right to pray to god lol.

cyd0099

Hi Linda, I'll just step outside and wave, fellow 'hamster.

Vernon Williams

Linda,

Welcome to the forum!

Looking forward to your posts.

There is a thread on avatars if you want to tell about yours...if you have not.

V

REBORNAGAIN

Speaking of praying,

Boy, the JW's have a lot to learn. When someone did something wrong, as you know, the Elders NEVER revealed what was going on. All they ever said was, "....for conduct unbecoming a Christian" I have learned in the other churches that being made aware of what a persons problem is, gives everyone the opportunity to pray on their behalf for exactly what their problem is. The Four Square Church I attended recently, nobody looked down at their members because someone may have started smoking or drinking again. It was announced in a small study group that so and so started up on this habit and needs our prayers and then we all held hands and prayed on this persons behalf. There was no hiding and covering up the facts. Boy, how many times did I think the worse about someone who got DF? Of course when I got DF, everyone thought the worse of me no doubt. But if they REALLY knew why, they'd flip. But the majority just assumed the worse and wouldn't even let me explain. Fine....they can just st*** it.

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