by reneeisorym 11 Replies latest jw friends
For background: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/141894/1.ashx
Apparently my mom has been going back to the meetings. She's enjoying being disfellowshipped. She doesn't have to deal with people.
She also thinks she's made a mistake by going back with my dad. She renewed her apartment lease in case she needs to go back soon. And now she's sad that if things stay the way they are, she can't spend Christmas with us .. WTF??
Renee I don't quite understand your post, why is she going back to the meetings if she enjoys being DFed and what does the appartment have to do with her going back?
.. WTF??
I don't quite understand either. Does the above quote mean that you don't really understand, either?
Her tooshie has got to be sore with all that fence sitting!
Do you think she enjoys the "drama" Renee?
if things stay the way they are, she can't spend Christmas with us
She's DF'd, is relieved she doesn't have to deal with people, and doesn't want to celebrate Christmas even though she's now free to do so.
Is your mom completely anti-social??
Is this passive-aggression in its worst form?
Is she trying to get some sympathy from you at the same time as 'rubbing it in' that she's going back to meetings etc?
WTF indeed!! Don't play to her tune, Renee, stay strong. She's made her decisions, let her live with 'em!
So now it seems that she is out but confused, still under the spell of the WTS, and can't do things like celebrate Christmas. You can explain to her that Christmas is not a pagan celebration and only the JWs think of it as being such. It is centered about Jesus and his coming into this world. Couldn't have been less pagan.
Sorry you're having to deal with her flip-flopping attitudes and behaviours. I can only imagine the emotional turmoil she's creating in your life.
Ok I didn't explain well. She went back to my JW dad. My dad is very controlling and he is "making" her go to the meetings. Mostly just because Mom will not stand up for herself. Mom is regretting going back with my dad because it means he won't let her spend Christmas with us even though she wants to. Mom isn't anti-social. She just got tired of the way JWs were treating her. In the mean time, I can't understand why she is still with him if she is this miserable.
She's confused. And I'm sure she doesn't realize how this is affecting you. Maybe she is afraid of being alone and would rather be miserable with your dad than to be miserable alone. Sounds like she could use some therapy. Is there a way you could suggest that to her?
BFD
