I realize this is a imaginary tale, but statements like
“How could her family have not seen this coming, so much was obviously falling apart around her and someone should have done something"
really, really, REALLY! Makes my blood boil.
I know that there are some people that don’t give a crap about their family – kids etc… But it is not the norm; if it were I wish the big A would come!
As JeffT said “she's going to have to want it.”
I heard the same crap from people all around me regarding my son ‘Why doesn’t she do something??” “Doesn’t she care at all about her son??” “How can a mother let him……” Let him my ass! If your child does drugs you have NO CONTROL over it. “Kick him out! If he were my child ….. “ I was so sick of the crap! I LET him do drugs. I LET him act like a psychopath! I LET him cuss me like I was a dog. I LET him……….!!!!!!!! I cannot talk for most parents or even some parents; I know what I did for my son. I went to every doctor, every psychiatrist, the mental health center until I found someone to tell me what was wrong with him. I went through this from the time he was 13 until present.
It took me 6 YEARS! For him to decide HE wanted to live! To decide HE wanted a good life. To decide HE wanted his family more than he wanted drugs. I did EVERYTHING I could possibly do. HE didn’t want my help. HE didn’t want off the drugs. HE DIDN”T give a shit about himself. He didn’t give a shit about me or his dad or his brother. HE had to make the choice himself.
The next time anyone wants to make a blanket statement of ‘why didn’t the parents do something’ I hope you don’t say it in front of someone like me; because if you do you may get more than you bargain for.
To all the ‘perfect parents’ out there; I simply hope it never happens to you. And if it does I hope you are smart enough to realize YOU CAN NOT MAKE YOUR CHILD DO ANYTHING! You can love them – no matter what. You may not like them at the moment – but you NEVER EVER tell them you don’t love them. You ALWAYS tell them you love them. I don’t care if you are so mad, so disappointed, so hurt that it feels like your heart is ripping out of your very soul, you TELL them that you love them. Don’t love them conditionally – like the JW’s taught us – Don’t love them IF – love them unconditionally and TELL them regardless. Because if you didn’t love them regardless of what they do you would not be hurting so bad when they call you a m*****f****** B****. You wouldn’t hurt when you walk in their room and see a shotgun lying on the bed beside them. You wouldn’t hurt when they tell you what a worthless piece of crap you are in front of the entire soccer team that you are coaching. It wouldn’t hurt….. He OD’ed 3 times. He cut himself with anything he could fine. He lived on painkillers and booze (yes, at 13 and 14 yrs old).
I don’t know Britney Spears parents or siblings, but if a mother is trying to take their child’s children away from them take into consideration this; would you take your grandchild away from your child if you had any other choice?
And none of this due to Jw’ism. He was not brought up a JW.
He is bipolar and he didn’t know how to handle it.
Now HE WANTS to handle it. He wants to have a ‘normal life’. HE wants his mind to stop racing. HE wants the correct drugs to be on. HE has decided to do what needs to be done.
He tells me he loves me everyday. He told me thank you for not giving up on him. He blushes when I tell him how proud I am of him.
Some people don’t want help. It is THEIR decision.
Your decision is – what will you do to really help; even if it hurts?
