Using your anger to make positive changes in your life

by Lady Lee 14 Replies latest jw friends

  • tula
    tula

    I read something like this in Ann Landers advice column many years ago. I was probably 12. When I would get mad, I would grab an egg and go outside. I would go for a long walk while I squeezed on the egg. The walk and the activity of directing my anger and energy onto the egg eventually helped me to calm down. Usually on the way back home, I would throw the egg at a tree and break it, thus a symbolic releasing of the tension. Here's the trick:

    Is the yoke on you?

    Ingredients:

    - An uncooked unpeeled egg

    The Recipe:

    1) Challenge some one to break an egg in the palm of their hand. Bet them that they can't do it by squeezing the egg with their palm and fingers.

    2) Place the egg in their hand.

    3) Have them slowly curl their fingers around the egg and start squeezing.

    Food for Thought:

    It didn't break, did it?
    By wrapping your fingers around the egg, pressure is evenly distributed throughout the shell. Eggshells are incredibly strong for their weight. The spherical shape of the eggshell maximizes strength with a minimum of shell material.

    Option:
    If you want to break the egg, you'll need a ring.

    If you or some one else is wearing a ring (like a wedding ring) on your finger, squeeze the egg like above. The small contact where the hard metal ring and shell meet is an area of significantly higher pressure. This uneven distribution of pressure will vary likely cause the eggshell to crack. Once a crack forms, that's it!

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee

    tula - what a great idea.

    yeah!!!!!!!!!!! ANEWME

    TP I just read the old thread by the same title. You might want to go read what you posted the first time (find it in the Best of Lady Lee)

    thanks WTW

  • tall penguin
    tall penguin

    Wow Lady Lee. I just went back and read my comments from two years ago. I've really come a long way in the anger department. This summer I've really come to feel, quite viscerally, my anger and rage. It's been amazing to see it shift from being angry with myself to placing the anger on the situations/people that sparked the anger to then shift into a place of peace where I can just let it wash through me entirely without needing to place the anger anywhere at all.

    I'm not the same person I was two years ago. Thank you for reminding me of the progress I've made.

    tall penguin

  • hambeak
    hambeak

    I believe anger is caused by hurt or feeling someone has been wronged.

    It just takes so much negative energy that it is not worth the trouble. Consider the source and then let them stew in their own crap.

    I have been hurt and angry like most on this board but I must go on and be happy, around people who are not miserable. Especially not around religious zealouts.

    Just my own experience and 2 cents

    Ham

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee

    excellent points hambeek

    The energy to suppress the anger is unbelievable. Years ago in Montreal I lived near the Metro(subway) There were 3 sets of 60 steps. I used to climb them but it was hard work. I would try running up and never made it to the top without stopping. One day after dealing with some of my anger (in a healthy assertive way) Well on the way home I started running up the stairs. And I made it! I got to the top and had to stop and look down. The first time I ever did that and I still had energy to spare.

    So much negative energy that wore me out. What a change for me. It was a real good lesson.

    tp That was what I was hoping you would see - Bravo

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