From Lurker to Leech? (an odd expression of gratitude)

inkling

I was a lurker here for a few weeks before breaking keyboard silence,
and the warmth and support I have received since has been remarkable.

I feel my posts are carefully read, accurately understood, and
thoughtfully responded to.

The odd thing is that even though I feel I am now an active part of
this community, I still feel a bit like a leech...

This is because I start a post, get a dozen or so wonderful comments
in reply, but very seldom do I reply to the replies; I don't turn it
into a dialog, I simply put my question or mini essay out there, and
wait for the critics to write their reviews.

This is mostly because I feel that if I DO take the time to actually
respond in any length IN TOPIC, it might never be read by anyone.

I don't know how long an actual dialog can last before the thread gets
swept on downstream and forgotten.

If anyone wants to enlighten me on some social dynamics I am missing
here, feel free.

Regardless, I just want to let you all know just how much I appreciate
YOU taking the time to post comments to my threads. You are so helpful
and encouraging, and I do not take you for granted.

Thank you, all.

[inkling]

blueviceroy

When one is learning one is gaining strength to aid others , no shame in silence, more would benifit from this noble and pure pursuit.

AK - Jeff

Many seem to do it as you do. No problem. Others engage a thread actively. No problem either.

Welcome and we are glad for your contributions in your way.

Jeff

purplesofa

i remember feeling that way

dont worry

you wont always feel that way

purps

BizzyBee

I don't know how long an actual dialog can last before the thread gets
swept on downstream and forgotten.

I'm betting that when you were being potty-trained you got upset by the solid evidence of your efforts being flushed, too.

FreudBee

oompa

Maybe you are just a selfish a$$hole.....................now scroll down

LOL......glad you are here!....oompa...do what feels right

changeling

Remember: you are not a witness anymore. You do not have to follow strict rules and protocol here.

Sometimes I start a thread just to put an idea out there and comment very little on the responses.

Other times I'm looking for the banter, the back and forth of ideas.

Other times, I respond because I am particularly moved by someone else's post.

Don't stress, just hang out with us and enjoy.

changeling

Open mind

Hey there [inkling],

You've already shown a great gift for writing and I keep an eye out for your posts (when I'm around that is).

Which brings me to a couple of "tips" you may want to consider.

1. If a thread is REALLY important to you and near and dear to your heart, you may want to give it a "bttt" on a different day just so some fresh eyes have a look at it and perhaps give some more feedback. (I did this myself on a thread about the ethics of whether or not to allow an unconscious Blood Card carrying JW spouse to have a blood transfusion.) On the other hand, as much as I hate to see my own Freudian Turd Threads circling the JWD toilet bowl, excessive "bttt"-ing is annoying, IMO.

2. If you have the time and desire to do it, I think most people appreciate having their responses acknowledged. But it's also not a big deal if you don't. We've all got lives to live and we certainly can't "baby-sit" every thread we start.

3. If you're "exemplary" for a year or so, the mods might even let you carry a microphone.

Keep on posting my friend, in whatever way suits you best.

I'm very glad you're here. (When you're here.)

Open Mind

nvrgnbk

Put it out there.

Leave the rest up to the Universe.

P.S.- I hate oompa

for not posting more.

Maddie

INKLING - More isn't always best. Just be yourself like you are being, that's all

Maddie

From Lurker to Leech? (an odd expression of gratitude)

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