RAISED IN ONLY MOSTLY...WHAT AGE DID U LEAVE HOME? (page 2)

Witness 007

That's pretty normal for a Pioneer/Servant dude who "puts the Kingdom first." I was 23 when I finally got time for a girlfriend. {I was ahead in Pioneering hours for the month}

Well... I was raised in a strange home environment. My dad and one of my sisters were killed in a car wreck when I was 7, so my mom had this notion that 'the family' (her and the rest of us 6 kiddos) would all stay together, and be reunited after the resurrection.

I wasn't allowed to have girlfriends - or any other friends - for that matter. One night, I was talking to a friend - who had moved into an apartment across the street - and got home late . after midnight.

The next day - my mom read me the riot act. I told her that if I wasn't allowed to have friends - and stay out late - while living at home - then I'd move out. She said 'fine'. I said 'fine'.

That week, I had located - and rented a small cottage - and that Friday - I moved out.

I was 21 years old (plus one month) - when I moved out.

I knew though... that if I couldn't make it on my own - and had to move back to my mom's house... no one would ever hear from me again - that she'd tighten the screws so tight that I'd crack - and become a mindless drone (or become a hermit like my oldest sister).

Thankfully - I never had to move back to that house.

Oh... I was still an active JW at that time... and only left - years later - after getting married, etc.

Regards,

Jim TX

momzcrazy

I got married at 19. Had to wait for hubby to graduate high school. Got married in May '92.

momz

UU Now

As a devout JW, your son probably believes that dating is appropriate only in the context of seeking and courting a spouse. If he's not ready to marry, he won't consider it appropriate to date. He may also not see the need to move out of your house until he marries. If you want him gone, you may have to push.

Junction-Guy

My parents were divorced, and we switched custody several times, I finally lived with my inactive (but still a dub at heart) grandma during my junior and senior year. I moved to Kentucky a couple years after graduation, still going to the Kingdom Hall occasionally. At 22 years of age, I finally decided to go back to the Kingdom Hall with the intent of baptism, after one year, and alot of arguments with my cousin ( who was studying with me) I finally decided I had enough, and was determined to have a girlfriend, get married, and do all the normal things for a young man, before I was to be destroyed at Armageddon. I married the first girl I met after that, and our marriage was troubled.

Well you all know the rest of the story.

Dave

saywhat29

Eh, he's probably just slow in that uptake, some guys are. Some reay don't cae and some realy don't know what to do with the opposite sex.

Or he could be...well... you know....

LOL, I'm fucking with you, more than likely being his father, one he probably feels he has to draw away from (especial now that you are oh so spiritually weak and hanging with his wordly brother) that you just don't KNOW who he likes. I mean I dont know the content of your relationship but just beause your his dad doesn't mean he'll automatically open up about all of his love interest. I'm sure its been somebody by now he just might not know what to say or even think to come to you guys in that way. Lord knows the girls I liked I know to keep my family out of my business 'cause all I got was a barrage of "DONT DO IT OMGZ< YOULL GET HER PREGNANT AND YOUR LIFE IZ OVAH AND JEHOVAH WONT LOVE YOU" and he might deal with that internally too.

So just calm down. Some people are just slower than others when it comes to relationships and what not.

EDIt: Forgot to add, still @ home with the wintess fam. Not fun. Leaving in the next six months once me and my friend have our finances in order. Cant wait for my first apartment!!

Burger Time

I left home at 20, but my parents were fine with me living in the house and dating worldly girls and having worldly friends. Very liberal rents mine were. Anyways my brother seems to have the same problem. He is 25 and hangs out with 18 year olds all the time. Most of the friends we grew up with are married or at least live on there own. My Dad even agreed my brother should be worldly for a couple of years to force him to grow up. The Society pretty much forces men to either get married or serve the KH 24/7. Thankfully my brother is a bit sleezy so they won't use him much in the hall.

babygirl75

I got married at 19 and left home and moved away. I had only dated my then husband for two months before we were engaged and then married 5 months later. Didn't really know him or his temper. Married 1995, left him and the religion in 2001. Married my great new hubby in 2003.

oompa

plus he is a ministerial servant and reg. pioneer and goes to bethel every chance he gets and will prob. be there long term soon...DOG HELP ME.
Well crap. Guy neads to get a life. Doesn't he have any NON-religious interests? Lore - W.W.S.D?

Lore nailed it....the only life he has is JW, although the does love music and sports, and having a good time with dub friends. I would give anything to get him in college, and he only needs two more years for a degree. He just does not seem to have "maturing intrests" and I think that is because he is so focused on going to Bethel....I am not doing well at un-ingraining him..............oompa

uwishufish

1976 me 19 my brother 16. Brother moved back in by then elder dad had started a fade and became liberal. On Sat nights we ussually made it to Hollywood in different cars with different freinds. So on Sun mornings I would go by my folks house and my brother and I would compare notes although we probably bumped into each other throughout the various clubs while partying.

Upon entering my parents house one Sun morning they stopped me before I entered his room and said "We think he has a girl in there" I ask "Why do you think so?" Their reply was "Her shoes and purse are on the sofa."

Turned out it was a jw girl who used to party in Hollywood also. My parents knew her, not a problem.

Girlfreinds spending the night was never a problem just as us not coming home for the evening didn't matter either.

When they found our herb as in when doing wash or walking in and it was accidentialy on the coffee table. nothing would ever be said.

My parents were liberal!!!

RAISED IN ONLY MOSTLY...WHAT AGE DID U LEAVE HOME?