What nvr said.
Be honest but not scary or preachy.
changeling
HOW SHOULD I PROCEED WITH THIS???
by Mary 15 Replies latest jw friends
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R.Crusoe
I would say I was very happy to be her friend and would be happy to talk about whatever she feels and thinks. I would also tell her that I am there to help her find things out for herself and she is most encouraged to make her own mind up. And I would also make sure I mentioned that if she chooses baptism at some point she will have to decide not to see you because of your personal feelings. Be friendly to her and leave an open invitation to her. Speak facts as plainly and without bias! Make good points as well as negative ones. Give a balanced perspective. Let her and praise her for making up her own mind. Mention how you feel you weren't able to as a JW for personal reasons which hurt you deeply. If she inquires then explain sympathetically what your feelings are!
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Guest with Questions
Hi Mary,
Not being a witness I was struck by the fact that JW’s don’t believe that Jesus is Mediator for all, but just for the 144,000. I get the sense though that not all witnesses realize this fact. The Memorial-not partaking if you’re not of the 144,000. Also a former witness suggested I get a Kingdom Interlinear. I would also suggest having another bible besides the NWT. (even for comparisons between the two-there’s websites that can give you that info)
They have really downgraded Jesus and lifted the Org up; that this Org is Mediator for most JW’s. They don’t celebrate Jesus’s birth, believe He’s just an angel, Michael the Archangel, when Hebrews clearly shows that Jesus is above the angels and to be worshipped.
I personally would ask her the questions; if what she believed agrees with the JW teaching. Might not seems as intimidating. I would also pray for guidance. Sometimes we take control and possibly sabotage it, for the moment anyway. We really can’t convince anyone of the truth. A person really has to be ready and open to it.
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aligot ripounsous
Talking with her from the same book she's studying will allow you to discuss precise topics, in the order that she's studying them. Asuming that you have your own religious beliefs, I wouldn't try to swap one against the other but I would stay on the ground of common sense. I would use a few well chosen quotationss from the WTS that carry a Knock out power (Behemoth and Leviathan being locomotives, the 1200 furlongs, etc.). That should move her to ask, in return, her study conductor, and with one stone you'll strike twice. Good real size exercise.
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sweetstuff
That's a tough one Mary, I think I'd go with just chatting with her, asking her if there is anything that has concerned her so far, or makes her hesitate in getting baptized. She might have her own concerns and questions. I would focus on addressing those first, if they exist. Scully made an excellent point regarding "headship". I'd try to keep it light at first, make her comfortable, find something of common ground to talk about, before delving into deep issues regarding doctrine, she probably will do exactly what you said, back up and see you as part of Satan's plan to destroy her new faith. Let us know how it goes! Best of luck.
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Sunspot
I think I'd begin with what Jesus said.....concerning 1)wolves in sheeps clothing and 2)the declaration that many imposters will come in his name, 3) the idea that jesus will be seen by ALL when he comes back and 4) that the WTS claims he came back invisibly and chose THEM as his faves, etc.....and then bring out ALL that contradicts what the WTS teaches.
The simple and down-to-earth approach is hard to get away from no matter WHO is telling her this.....demonic anti-JWs included . You will do just FINE!
hugs,
Annie