Family member coming around

TweetieBird

I went out to eat last night with my neice. We had a few drinks and started talking. Before I knew it the conversation turned to the subject of doubts about the organization and if I recall correctly (hard when you've had a couple) she is the one that brought the conversation up.

Well I went out on a ledge and mentioned that I too had had doubts for years now, living hell, yada, yada, yada, and after she expressed that she was torn between living her own life and hurting her parents, I told her about the UN thing. She was totally shocked.

I felt kind of bad because she went outside and after she didn't return for a while I went looking for her. She was outside crying hysterically. Her whole belief system had been crushed in those few minutes.

I don't know what will become of it, but she said she was so grateful that she now had someone to confide in.

If she decides to tell her parents about it, then I will surely be df'd as my brother-in-law is a real dick-head that firmly believes in going straight to the elders about any wrongdoing, but at this point, I don't really care.

"By doubting we come at truth" -Cicero

bboyneko

tweetie bird, she was more likley crying because she finally has somone to tell these things tom an outlet. I doubt the UN thing was so devastting she cryed just because of it. That's jus my opinion tho and I could be wrong. I hope she gets out of the box soon.

safe4kids

Hey (((tweetie)))! Good to hear from ya!

Wow, that's really something about your niece! I don't know, bboy may be right that she was crying from the relief of finally having someone to confide in...she may also be overwhelmed at realizing her doubts are well founded. Who knows? But I think it's wonderful that you two were able to connect and who knows what the future will hold??

I don't know how old your niece is but most of us can relate to how overwhelming it is to start to see that the "truth" isn't really true...and all of the worries and fears that rush in when you think of leaving and the impact that will have on your family and friends. Anyway, I wish you both the best! And it's good to see you here

Love,
Dana

Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end...
Closing Time, Semisonic

SixofNine

I'm sure she was feeling a whole range of emotions. Be assured though, it is all good.

Rockin' good news! Another one bites the dust, hey hey.

TweetieBird

I agree that she was probably crying partly out of relief, but, also at the situation she now finds herself in. She is in her early 20's and recently separated from an abusive husband (a JW). She is living back home with her parents. She cannot handle being shunned by her family right now. Of course, I told her that I would never do that to her, but she's very close to her parents and really does not want to hurt them.

"By doubting we come at truth" -Cicero

SixofNine

Well get on the phone with her and tell her, beg her, not to do anything rash. Let her know that she can take her time with this, and deal with her parents and the BfB's (bastards from brooklyn) on her terms, but only if she is careful.

Now call!

Pathofthorns

I agree with six.

The story is very encouraging, but your sister is a long way from where you want her to be. There is much to be discussed at endless future meetings between the two of you. This is only the beginning and its too easy to jump to the conclusions you are hoping for.

I have found it good once they reach this point to let them do some reading on their own (COC etc.) and give them some space. They need time to think through alot of things and they will contact you with lots of questions when they are ready.

Path

drahcir yarrum

Tweetie:

Perhaps you need to have a follow up with your neice reinforcing the need for her to proceed cautiously. It sounds like there is a real nut in the basket in her father. She also needs to know that how she handles these things from here on out can not only impact her, but you as well.

Good Luck!

serenaj92

I agree with our friends here. Let her know that no matter what she decides to do you will be there for her. True friends don't let anything come between them. I still have some witnesses that secretly talk to me. I let them know that I love them and what they display to me by continueing to talk to me is true friendship. Let her know she is not walking away from God, some will surely tell her this, but let her also relize that she is only walking away from a religion of people, God is always there and it doesn't take a name of a religion to be blessed. I left, it was very scarey, but I have been very blessed too.

suprashy

Hi folks!

As I'm reading this thread, I thought now would be a time to mention what I've been thinking for the past days I have begun to study the JWs. When presented with a WT, don't people do their own research?? The first thing I did was do a search for JW on the net. I then searched books to show historical evidences of the traditional Christian faith. The evidence I have found is compelling, in favor of traditional Christianity (the cross, the consistency of Church teaching-no end of world prophecies, etc..).

So I can now honestly refute the JW doctrine, and back it up with historical evidence.

My question is, (not speaking for those born into the JW, that is totally different), but how does one get entrapped into the JW org. without doing any independent research? When one buys a car, don't we read about it first? Find out the pros and cons?? I just find it amazing how many people take things for face value. What is it in their teachings, that sway so many? This is basic research 101, kinda like doing a book report. If the WT claims the Cross, Trinity, giving blood, etc. is pagan, then go research it in the library, and see if what they say is true-I found that it is not. Thank you all, for any input.

Regards,

Suprashy

Family member coming around

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