How hardcore?

4mylove

I've slowly found out that my hubby was a great BIG JW in his active days. He's been inactive now for about 5 years. He has only attended 1 memorial and one assembly recently to supposedly appease his father that came into town to have to drive 1.5 hrs to attend the one in our area. The one time we discussed this issue in our marriage, I unfortunately found out that he still feels strongly about the faith just hasn't decided to to back. I think that it is really due to the fact that he knows that it makes me a nervous wreck when the issue comes up.

My question is, how hardcore where you before now? Or rather how "in" were you before leaving. It seems there is a big mix here, those that were at bethel and those that left before adulthood.

Thanks again for the help guys and gals,

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primitivegenius

as hard as they come. parents still are............ poor bastards

4mylove

bttt

Finally-Free

The word "hardcore" attracted me to this thread, and anything JW related was furthest from my mind.

W

VoidEater

Not sure that I'm "typical", though I was completely mindless drone; but I was a liberal drone: while I wouldn't consider leaving at the time, I never believed the WTS was God's infallible representative on Earth.

AlmostAtheist

Seriously hardcore. If they'd've passed out the koolaid, I'd've drunk it. Happily swallowed the 1995 generation change like it was manna from heaven.

:-(

Dave

4mylove

Thanks guys, just really scared. I was just telling him last night that as happy as we were there giggling and laughing like school kids, that this wasn't always going to be the same. That i was very afraid of things changing one day. Poor guy, he doesn't deserve this but, it really is very scarry to know that i have it all, and it could all be taken away pretty quick by the flick of an eyebrow from a bastard that doesn't truly have any concern in our lives. Sorry venting again. Love you guys, your always there.

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DublDipd

I was pretty "hardcore" myself. Regular aux pioneer in both Spanish and English congs. Dad and all my uncles elders (they still are), etc... It took years for me to realize that they don't have "the truth". But the pull of the WTBS is strong. Up until a few years ago, when times were tough or emotional issues would come up, I would think about how easy it would be just to go back...I would get my family back, everything would be cool. But eventually one (at least me) becomes completely free from the society's BS. I realized that going back is not the answer...working out your on salvation is what it's all about.

Carmel

Definately "hardcore" until the day I was baptized at age 12. As promised I would grow spiritually upon baptism, and sure enough I realized that very day that there was a semi load of hypocracy in the Borg and I had been lied to for much of my conscious life. So, though it took three years to get free, before my 15th birthday I was able to physically separate from the clutches of a disfunctional dedicated JW family and set a new course in life. Soon thereafter DF'd in absentia, and full freedom realized. I'd confront the spouse really soon before he can re-build relationships in the cult. carmel

changeling

Hardshell with a gooey core.

Born and raised. Elder dad. Missionary wannabe mom. I never quite fit in but did "all the right things".

Married a witness, had two children. Husband became an elder. Nice little witness family.

Found out about the UN/ngo thingy and that was it. All my doubts came tumbling out of my brain and I confronted them openly for the first time in my life (at age 47).

changeling

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