There is a girl that I like that I wish to start dating.

D2meep

The reason I'm posting here is because the girl I like (Chelsea) is a Jehovahs Witness and I am not. I used to try to pursue a relationship with her up until two years ago when I moved about an hour from her house after I graduated and started going to a tech college. I used to think she liked me also because we used to do things with each other even though her mother hated the idea of her daughter dating (such as movies, going to the mall to hang out, amusment parks) and chelsea never actully said anything we did was a date but I could tell she enjoyed my company and still does but the way she acts towards me now is confusing. She hints at me to start going to meetings and when I say that I would like to go to meeting with her she suggests going to her grandfathers hall which is in sandy lake and much closer to me. (like 20 minutes) Her brother Sean is my best friend and has been for 13 years of my life and doesn't totally go with the JW religion. Anyhow he told me that she likes me but can't admit it because someone from her hall might find out and that if I would become a JW that she could openly start a relationship with me. This is where I'm confused if she likes me why can't she say it to my face its got me really stressed out and its breaking my heart to see her acting this way. I found this site as I was googleing dating procedures if someone was a witness and the other was not but I can't find much of anything other than this site. http://www.escapefromwatchtower.com/family.html Me and Chelsea really used to get along even now we talk for hours on end about everything when I go to sean's house. I really love this woman and I think something can come about out of this relationship but I just don't know how to preceed. I'm really unsure about what to do and any advice would be very helpful please.

momzcrazy

Welcome to JWD. Now, DO NOT JOIN THIS RELIGION!

Run as fast as you can. If you can take Chelsea with you, that would be great. But be prepared for the guilt she will feel and her sadness over her lost contact with her family. Who will more than likely cut her out of their lives.

All said in love and concern.

momzcrazy

Bumble Bee

Welcome to JWD!

Here is a link to the Best Of section that Lady Lee put together http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/32/77159/1.ashx

You might find some of the information there helpful.

There are others on this forum that have a spouse that is a JW and they are not. Jgnat, carla and Reble Wife come to mind right now. They will be able to give you an idea of what you are up for in this relationship.

BB

nvrgnbk

Fellow Pennsylvanian here, D2meep.

Rip your heart out and flush it down the toilet.

If you're feeling blissfully euphoric as you watch it descend into the sewer, by all means pursue things with Chelsea.

momzcrazy

I was the JW in my marriage for 8 yrs. BB's right, there is great info in that link.

momz

Priest73

D2,
This is a site for x-jws and those who are in various stages of leaving. FYI

Gopher

Hi D2. I've never been in your position, but I feel for you.

You said:

Anyhow he told me that she likes me but can't admit it because someone from her hall might find out and that if I would become a JW that she could openly start a relationship with me.

That's the key right there -- that to a JW, their reputation/image in their Kingdom Hall is a prime motivating factor. It's a fear that will override her ability to love a non-JW like yourself. It's frustrating, and I'm sorry to say I have no advice on how to proceed as long as she's tied in with the JW's. I can only wish you strength to face up to the reality of the situation.

wanderlustguy

run run run run run run run run run run run run run

and then, start running.

Honesty

Anyhow he told me that she likes me but can't admit it because someone from her hall might find out and that if I would become a JW that she could openly start a relationship with me.

Read what you wrote and really think about it.

She lives in fear.

The reason she lives in fear is because the Watchtower Society controls her every emotion, thought, feeling and life.

I was mrried for 10 years to one of the most beautiful women you will ever lay your eyes on.

We were both Jehovah's Witnesses.

When I decided that the religion is nothing more than a God dishonporing deceitful and dishonest cult and quit attending meetings our marriage fell apart because I was no longer serving God according to her.

That is what you may find yourself in for if the girl doesn't break free from the cahins that are holding her mind.

BTW, if you say anything against the JW's or the Watchtower Society, she has been brainwashed into believing that you are being used by Satan to keep her from getting into paradise.

-Tank

Hi D2meep.

I had a very similar situation to yours, except it went even further.

I know it hurts to say this, and I know you think I am crazy, and trying to rain on your parade, but trust me when I say, I went through what you did, and I did not win. You may be better off to get over this now, assume the worst, and move on with your life. If you say or do anything at all that implies in a bad way to the watchtower society, they will view you as Satan, and suddenly you will become the enemy.

Here is my story, I hope it helps you. There are also countless other stories here, keep browsing, and you will find many common grounds amongst us and others.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/147125/1.ashx

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