I worked for the county health department for 18 years, advanced to a supervisory position, and had to give it up due to extreme stress.
I was the primary caregiver to our mother who was very difficult. I worked quite a distance from her, and when I would call to check on her, she wouldn't answer the phone. I would freak out thinking about what may have gone wrong. I would leave work, drive the distance to check on her, and find her sitting there looking at me as if I was crazy. I tell you, this nearly drove me out of my mind.
I resigned the position and took a drastic cut in pay. I'm now in a pretty quiet place; my boss thinks I'm the greatest; I have two more years before I'm vested. Life is pretty good.
Sylvia