Ah, Trevorgate. I don't remember all the details now, it was a few months ago, but some wanted to send flowers and letters or go to the funeral, I think. . .and there was no funeral, no obituary, no record of her existing. The other 'friends' that were supposedly supporting him through his loss all seemed to be posting from his computer at his home (hence the isp interrogations).
He had shown up at a gathering of ex-JWs (often irreverently called 'apostafests') and so we knew Trevor was a real human being. What he did hurt everyone. I cried over a person who didn't exist (more than once-there was a lot that happened with 'her' illness before 'she' died, as well as falling in love, marriage-everything).
There have been a couple of other incidents of disillusionment of a sort,(one involving a guy trolling for women) but that was one was kind of devastating.We care about what happens to each other, and we really cared for her and wanted to support the 'two' of them.
There are a lot of trust issues here. We have a lot of BSing, and we are usually pretty good with it. We disagree, we argue, flirt, fall in love, have 'pet' enemies, but we are pretty forgiving of/open to of different lifestyles, politics, weights, races, sanity levels, orientations and religions or lack thereof. But telling us a big tall tale--we've had enough of that in the organization-that doesn't work here. It is ripping off a big nasty scab.
Me, I have never met anyone on this board yet, so I am as yet unconfirmed. I haven't had anything interesting enough to challenge. You came on here with a bang. Kind of abrupt and dramatic and you really got our attention. Which immediately set off some internal alarms. We'll get over it though:) Be patient, we haven't eaten any small babies or pets lately.
Like I told you earlier in the PM, WELCOME to both of you.