We ought get away from the concept of dubs being told what to do in their personal life by the elders. The WT is very clear that elders must not give advice .. That is not to say that it has not happened, or that some dimmo elders will still do it. They do a lot of things they are not supposed to, and fail to do even more that they should do.
As for choosing to reprove a child abuser, as happened in the Mill Hill, London congregation a while back. The elders are told this in the "Pay Attention Book, Unit 5.
"Even though the wrongdoer is guilty of a serious offense,
elders on the judicial committee realize that their
aim is to recover the one who has fallen into a wrong
course, whenever this is possible . (Jude 23)
If he listens to them, showing true repentance, it may be
that he can be retained as a brother and thus be spared
being disfellowshipped . (Prov. 19 :20 ; compare Matthew
18 :15-17 .)
Neither the gravity of the wrong nor bad publicity
finally determines whether the person should be disfellowshipped
; rather, the determining factor is the individual's
sincere repentance or the lack of it" .
