Do you sometimes feel really disconected from people?

by Aphrodite 42 Replies latest jw friends

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  Layla33

  Sure you will feel disconnected from people, that's exactly how you were indoctrinated. It's "us" and "them". In the world, but not of the world. "Worldly people", "demonized people" - it's all about disconnection, it's all about other. And when you disagree they just continue the mind control and lack of balance and freedom in your view of humanity.

  I believe there are therapists that specialize in this, you should do some research.

  What you have to do is rebuild, find positive reinforcement, UNLEARN all the blocks in your mind, interact with humanity freely - learn to trust yourself and your judgements. It takes time, meditate, find yourself, learn yourself and feel comfortable in your boots. After that find some friends that you can trust and just learn to relax and laugh and be free...
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  Satanus

  Yeah. For periods of time, i cut everybody out, don't answer the phone, nothing. Then, after a while, i jump back into the flow.
  
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  tsar_robles

  Your post made me cry... I am way older than you but pretty much still going through the same thing... well even though now I have a family of my own I still can't give up the feelings for my 'family'... and probably never will...
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  Micky4321

  I totally know how you feel. It runs so deep. For me it's like growing up in that religion has turned me against all religions. My biggest issue with religion at this point and this is not a serious issue for most but I find every single religion all everyone does is sit around and criticize others. It's like whever I go whoever I talk to people are putting others down constantly. If I talk to a JW then I'm bad if I talk to someone who isn't and tell them how I grew up then it's negative also. It's like I can't escape the negativity so I shut myself of from almost everyone. My hubby is awesome though. I don't know what I would do without him. How do you find a psychiatrist who deals with this kind of thing?
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  Aphrodite

  Satanus, I do that too, I sometimes dont answer the phone for a whole day, just take it out the hook. I think my friends think Im a bit odd.
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  dogisgod

  Satanus, Aphrodite, yup. Feel like a vulnerable rabbit holed up in it's den. I think it is a permanent condition but you try your best to go out and blend.
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  R.Crusoe

  I feel so disconnected that sometimes when I look in the mirror I don't even recognise myself.

  And I keep away from women coz they say .'Now you know how we feel!'

  People suck!
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  GoddessRachel

  Absolutely. I feel like I'm between worlds and I'll never fit into either, won't be able to meet someone and have a normal loving relationship or have friends or family.

  I can so completely relate to this feeling! It's worse than not being a JW sometimes because even if I was a freak, I was a freak who belonged somewhere. Now I don't belong anywhere, not in the "world" and certainly not with the Witnesses. It's No Man's Land, emotionally. I hold onto the hope that I'll feel more comfortable someday. And I don't force myself to do things that feel weird to me. For instance, I have celebrated Christmas in the past, but this year my partner and I weren't feeling it. We had our own special day together, but we didn't do the tree, and didn't exchange gifts, not on that day anyway. I wish it was special to me but it isn't. I never had it growing up, so why would it be? Awake and Watching, thank you for sharing your experience and different perspective. That helps tremendously, for me anyway. Peace, Rachel
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  tijkmo

  HINTERLAND

  WELL I GAVE UP ON DIGNITY

  I LET IT GO IT WASN’T ME

  AND I GAVE IN AND THAT WAS WRONG

  I DIDNT FIGHT I WASN’T STRONG

  YOU CAN BE KIND

  YOU CAN BE CRUEL

  YOU CAN’T BE BOTH

  YOU CAN BE KIND

  YOU CAN BE CRUEL

  YOU CAN’T BE BOTH

  AND TO THE RIGHT THERE IS A VOICE

  AND TO THE LEFT AS GOOD A CHOICE

  AND EVEN THOUGH THEY’RE SELDOM SEEN

  THEY STILL EXIST THOSE INBETWEEN

  YOU CAN BE KIND

  YOU CAN BE CRUEL

  YOU CAN’T BE BOTH

  YOU CAN BE KIND

  YOU CAN BE CRUEL

  YOU CAN’T BE BOTH

  AND WHEN YOU’RE HUNGRY AND YOU’RE THIRSTY

  AND YOU’VE NOTHING LEFT TO GIVE

  IN A WORLD OF JUSTICE WITHOUT MERCY

  WELL THAT’S NO PLACE TO LIVE

  YOU CAN BE KIND

  YOU CAN BE CRUEL

  YOU CAN’T BE BOTH

  YOU CAN BE KIND

  YOU CAN BE CRUEL

  YOU CAN’T BE BOTH

  AND PRISON

  SELDOM WORKS

  FOR THE INNOCENT

  AND HEAVEN

  SELDOM WAITS

  FOR THE RETICENT

  YOU CAN BE KIND

  YOU CAN BE CRUEL

  SO TAKE A STAND

  SO MAKE YOUR CHOICE

  AND WELCOME TO

  MY HINTERLAND

  the irony - hinterland 2007
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  lonelysheep

  Yes, I do. I am.
  
  I wasn't brought up jw, but getting involved with them sure started my ongoing (and now mutual) disconnection from family.

  I'm sorry and can imagine the hurt you feel inside.

  The difference between feeling disconnected now vs. then is that I am not vulnerable to anything or anyone. To my own pain, yes, but I can't be suckered into anything.