That is just the best news. You must be so happy. It is so exciting when a much loved family member leaves the borg.
Congrats on all your hard work.
Princess
My niece's change of heart.....
by Tatiana 19 Replies latest jw friends
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Stephanus
LOL Backfired indeed. Just imagine if your Mum and her sister had approached that letter thing differently. Instead of screaming don't read it, they'd said: "There'll probably be stuff in there which puts Jehovah and his org in a negative light, but we trust you; your faith in Jehovah is enough to withstand such doubts and you're intelligent enough to figure it out. Just check out the issues raised on the CDROM or raise them with the elders." Although we all know how ineffectual the last part of that paragraph is, the impact of the first part, the showing of love and trust would probably have been enough to quell the doubts for a while. The Dubs should have learnt after 75 years that Rutherfordian vitriol doesn't work these days, if it ever did!
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Tatiana
Simon, thank YOU for having this site. I got so much info from the posters here (thank you, hawk, Kent, Randy, and so many others who put up the info for all of us to read).
Yeru, I have already offered her a place to live and help with the baby. She always has a home here. With my sister being dead, I treat her just like my own daughter.
April
"Love never dies." Voivodul Vlad Draculea (from Bram Stoker's Dracula-1992)
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ashitaka
Nice!!! I know how sweet victory feels. Congrats.
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SixofNine
Rockin' good news!!!!!
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ZazuWitts
Tat,
Great news about your niece...just great. You have put a big smile on ol' ZZ's face. I'm so glad to hear your niece still can think independently, and see the hypocrites for what they are.
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Mazza
I found it interesting how you compiled info to the tune of 200 pages. I was just thinking this morning that a person ought to spend some time down loading the cream of the posts - god knows there are so many of them - and making them into a book. Some of the stuff I've read over the years has disappeared into oblivion and it makes me real sad to think others will never read it. Maybe you have the beginnings of a book there already?
It's very sad what your neice has been thru. My niece is a runnaway daughter of seriously "in" jws. She's 18 and on her own. It's very sad to see it. I have never been able to get close to her because I was always the disfed auntie who had two heads. Even though the girl ran away from home at 16, her and I didn't have the back ground to form a trusting relationship, and I think my niece is still a little afraid of upsetting her mother by associating with me. Sometimes she phones my kids who are 21 and 24 - but they are not what you'd call close. I just find it so terribly sad to see kids floundering for want of unconditional love from jw parents - who cannot accept their children unless they have a book bag in their hand and a wholesome outfit on their backs.
I imagine your neice has a long way to go yet - so much damage has already been done to her. Hopefully with your unconditional love her personal growth will be made that bit easier.
Marilyn
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Ranchette
April,
I'm thrilled to hear this news too!
Keep us posted on her "progress."You said,
never did I think that one day I'd be "working" to get someone OUT, instead of IN!I understand how weird this feels.
I call what we are doing REVERSE FIELD SERVICE
Just think most of us put in more time than we ever did as JWs.Some are putting in pioneer hrs doing this.We now know what it TRULY feels like to be motivated from the heart and not from guilt and fear!
Ranchette
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Xena
WAY TO GO APRIL!!
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Tatiana
Marilyn, when I started trying to put the information together, I was only going to send maybe 10 pages. I read a lot on this board before I ever posted. One of the reasons I decided to stay was because of all the great information here.
Everytime I'd read a really imformative post, I'd copy it. I'd tell myself that was it, and I'd mail it tomorrow. Then tomorrow came and I'd see another great post. Two ink cartridges and 235 pages later, it finally went to SC.
(That's a good idea. To have important posts compiled into a book.)
About your niece, I agree it's so sad the "conditional" love JWS have for their family members. My mother made my niece feel that if she didn't get baptized at 12, she didn't LOVE her, and laid the biggest guilt trip you could imagine on a girl who was already emotionally unstable. Then my mother couldn't understand why she ran away at 16!
I'm waiting here each day for the phone to ring. Each time it does, I hold my breath, hoping it's Stephanie. Nothing yet. I guess she needs time to read it all. And digest it. I'm so impatient!
Ranchette, I like that "reverse field service".
April
"Love never dies." Voivodul Vlad Draculea (from Bram Stoker's Dracula-1992)