I might feel sorry for you, but I just had my 25th anniversary yesterday, and my husband got me nothing! Not a card, not a flower, nada! He did buy a little bottle of champagne but that was mostly for him I think, since he drank most of it! I did buy him a present and one for my son.
We were one of those JW family's who made our anniversary "family present day" and I always planned some activity, so it's not like he doesn't know the drill." My parents also wanted to throw us a party and he said he didn't want to go. It caused a huge stink in my family and my parents ended up interrogating me about my marriage, thinking we were splitting up.
So after the party was nixed, I thought, I am fed up with being the one who puts all the effort into the relationship. I'm not planning anything. I did buy him a present though, because to me, a little token of all of our years together is not too much too expect. Oops, I'm sorry, apparently it is. I thought about being "hurt" but to tell you the truth,this is not the first time he has just not bothered to get me something. It's been very hit or miss. In the past, I was very hurt. No matter how much we might have been fighting, I still got him an anniversary gift. To me it was my way of re-connecting and reaffirming my commitment to our family. This year, I didn't act hurt or say a word. I shrugged, and said to myself, whatever! I consider it symptomatic of the relationship as a whole. He is just not willing to put forth any effort in any other area either. So, now I am thinking, why should I bother. Can't run a one man show forever, can you?
Cog (OK, I'm feeling slightly sorry for myself)