I answered based on my wife's feelings. Snakes reminds me about my mother's feelings.
This will be a test. She will almost certainly ask about our Memorial while on vacation.
I won't be able to easily duck the question.
Nobody should tell others what to do on this. JW's shouldn't tell faders or DF'ed ones to go.
We shouldn't tell others that they should or should not go. Many here are barely holding on
to family who might shun them if they break this final straw. Strength to all of you, regardless
of your reasons for your decision.
So the moral of the story is, if you honestly and personally do not want to go, you shouldn't go. I
respect that you want to try to protect your wife from having to go alone, along with the dozens
of "Where's your husband? Tell him we missed him" kind of guilt questions. But you have to do
what's right for you as well.
The above comment from exwitless kept me in the "I won't go" category. I will deal with Mom
somehow.