1st post guys...but let me tell you my dad was one of the top elders in my state. in face we originated out the 1st spanish congregation in the state..my dad cast a big shadow that i could never live up to and neither did i care to live up to. i never felt anything spiritual going to the kingdomhalls, not once..in fact, it made me wonder too much about it..very controlling, lots of hidden secrets that i pickedup on, people getting molested and nothing done about it (boy i wish i could tell you that story)..anyways, lets get to my 16year of life, one of the elders during a thursday metting pulled me into a meeting room and told me 'brother, we have been praying to jehovah and feel he has told us that you will be a good ministerial servant'...First of all, jehovah would have known my a&s was never ready for it at 16y.o - too big of a responsibility for someone who has little experience in life (i guess you can look at it this way WE GOT YOU SUCKA early), but I shot him down - I said "sorry but I am not ready"..it did not take even a second for that response to shoot out of my mouth, the elder was shocked, he said "but your Dad will be a good instructor in helping you", I said "its not my Dad job to decide for me, this is my decision - ALONE"..he went back and told my dad, and my dad ripped me to shreds, i was in tears but never took it still even under adverse pressure. That same night, 2 other brothers were named ministerial servants, the prodigy son of the great elder of the congregation will NOT be named..oh can you hear my Dad..he came comparing them and putting them on a pedestal, for a whole year he bombarded me. i left home before my 18th birtday, i suffered for it, lost all my friends, i even went to an assembly meeting and brothers and sisters where hugging me..and you know what..i never missed it, never missed them..i left that day, I never went back to it..it took me 20 years to find the real GOD that i was searching for..here is how that goes in the last year, now 37y.o, i started reading the LEFT BEHIND series from Tim LaHaye (awesome fictional books about the end of times), here so mad about everything with me at the JW and never being able to move on, wife begged me to start searching for GOD..i got really into the books, i was IN...but did you all know i was a self proclaiming agnostic, thats is how brainwash i was, either i was going to believe in Jehovah as JW believe or id rather slit my wrist and call myself agnostic..few months past and i read all 17 books, then there was a father of my sons bestfriend, always invited me to his church..i tried many but none did nothing to me, i never truly let go the fear of becoming a JWApostate..this time i went in with an open mind..in the 1st 5 minutes of going, i felt something, nothing i never felt before, a calmness in my heart, like it was HOME to me...ever since that day, i read the bible, I test it..i tell the pastor about my testing and questioning..and instead of doing what my dad did, with ignorant comments and never really helping me - understand me..he said ASK away, i wont know all the answers he said but i will search endlesly with you...we bring all kinds of bibles to the church, never do we solemnly have ONE bible fitted church..Brothers, i tell you, i never have felt that moment before anywhere. GOD is calling us, to get out while we can, he is opening up our eyes, our ears are hearing better.. HE says to me - TEST ME - ASK ME - my words are infallible - and questions have been answered. let me add one more piece...during this transition, my marriage was so so..i prayed to GOD, help me, give me a sign that you are with me.. I heard him say go get your wife a bouquet of yellow flowers, and make sure when you go home your kids are with you...so in search, late in the evening i went, i can not find ONE floral shop, so i prayed and i said to GOD, am i just making this up as I want?? then I told GOD this is the last place i will go and i will go on FAITH...here is where i get chills: i get out of my car, the store that i went next to and i have never been even in this place, was a CHRISTIAN book, store that its called FAITH christian books store..okay???? next, I go to the store and there is one 1 bouquet of yellow flowers - okay? next, i go home, didnt even have to take the kids,they walk in the room with me and my son says "Mom wake up - look what WE got you" and thats how a REAL GOD opens your eyes and heart...here i am a fool to him, cursing him out because i was so hurt about how me and my dad went down. 20 years of loniness i felt, my dad not in my life, casted from the family..My dad said "you are disowned to me"..the shunning began..just to know that the Lord was just putting me where he always wanted me to be..20 years of detoxing from that place..mind job after mind job..if i asked anything that was out of the norm..i was AlWAYS wrong to ask.. folks there is only one way to the LORD, no man or religion will save you..Only the Lord our God can...i do things for GOD because I love GOD, Acts 4:12 Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to men by which we must be saved