by oompa 14 Replies latest jw friends
There was this awesome girl I truly fell infatuated with at 16...Laura Harris from Washington, NC. It was mutual, but she was 18, and in dub years those two can be HUGE! Missed her for years, and when I think about her, I get a smile with eyes closed....Same thing with Betsy from Dunn many years later.....we were both married and to gooda dubs to be bad with each other....damm it.............................oompa
Any you wish had been the one at an earlier stage?
PM me Laura!
At 16 I was engaged to a ministerial servant from Idaho. I would definately go back, to kick his ass. SOB begged for sex and when it came down to marry me or leave, he left. And married another 16 year old. But I think she kicked his ass enough for both of us. She cheated and got pregnant. Left him and then was put in jail for domestic violence against her boyfriend. So he is now raising their two kids with his new wife, who is 15 years older than him. Karma will get you every time.
momz
Thank God for unanswered prayers. Be careful what you wish for. Just a couple thoughts on the subject.
Wish I could go back? No...not at all. Recently discussed young loves and how funny...the same day "the one" called. I am so happy for him and his wife. They have a tone of kids together and it sounds like they are loving life. I so want to intro him to all my childrens and it looks like he and his wife and kids will be out to visit soon. I don't even feel the heart strings pull. I would think it odd, but I don't. I truly am happy for him. It feels good to hear his voice all bubbly with love for his family and Lord knows I have my hands full. I am not even worried about looking for romance. Last of my worries right now.
I'm really just so happy my young puppy love didn't work out. I only had one that could be considered anything more than a fling and I will always have a soft spot in my heart for him, and care about him so much... but my current husband and I are just so much more compatible in every sense.
And if you're just talking infatuations... there was one brother that I had my "first crush" on when I was like 11 and he was like 20- obviously not going to happen. He got married, later divorced, and when I was 17 I got to make out with him. It was awesome, but I will always regret letting him leave that night being a gentleman. ;o)
I'm not sure I'd want to run into him anymore though, I prefer to remember things the way I do.
I sometimes wonder what my life would have been like if that one brother and I had hooked up. My sister (who had more contact with him than I did afterI moved away) thinks I would have been unhappy in the end with him. It's hard to imagine that a life with him would have been more difficult than the one I lived! But my greatest fear is that it might have been much harder for me to become free from the JWs if I had been with him.
Nonetheless, there are still a few songs that take my mind down roads untraveled.
Well I was quite the "playa" as a teen, collecting phone numbers, going on "group dates", and emailing and flirting at assemblies like a mad man. At one time I was juggling 5 women, never did anything with em, just stupid puppy love garbage. Then, I got broke up with by "the one", we were truly a "power couple", but she fell for another guy and broke my heart, I cried and got depressed. Then a couple months later I decided I needed to "rebound" quickly, so I went to a "Dub party", and it was really lame, but I met my future (now ex) wife there. Looking back my ex and I had nothing in common, but we were really horny, shoulda just left it at that instead of getting married, but her elders and parents pressured the shit outta us, so c'est la vie. Now I'm happily divorced for over 2.5 years, and with the love of my life. I've truly never been happier, and actually even wish my ex all the best in her life too.
There was one that I almost fell for a second time shortly after I was divorced. I actually went to see her before my divorce was final, and we made out like horny teens a couple times. She was too much of an ultra dub though, we tried long distance dating but eventually she found a younger man that she could control, and she married him. I honestly think she may have had some mental issues too that were undiagnosed. I found out she was breaking up with me when I got an invite to her wedding...
Oompa,
On occasion, I digress. I can think of a few women from my past that I would like to talk to.
Unfortunately, it is never the same. I could make a list, but why bother? You have to fine happiness within yourself. Find Phi!
JK of the philosophical class
Don't get me started.
