I'm curious to know if not beng able to comment at meetings was something you felt badly about if you were on restrictions.
I don't comment anyway, but I hardly think not being able to comment is a "restriction" in itself.
For those who were on restrictions: Did it bother you not to comment?
by truthseeker 10 Replies latest jw friends
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Hope4Others
Hi truthseeker,
I've never had the privilege of being on restrictions.
Hope4Others
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sweetface2233
It only bothered me at the book study. I felt like all eyes were on me because there were 8-10 people there (at the most) and everyone (including the 5 year olds) but me were commenting.
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AlyMC
I forgot for a moment, but I was on restrictions once for about a year. It didn't bother me because (contrary to how it appears online) I'm actually really quiet and commenting was just not something I did all that often.
I think it bothered DH more, especially at book study. I seem to remember switching to the hall book study to be less obvious about it.
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Tired of the Hypocrisy
Not me, I was never on any formal restrictions. But my father in law had been df'd in error and he said it was the worst time in his lifer and he never felt lower.
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mind my own
It actually didn't bother me b/c by that time I was already looking for a way out. However, like Sweetface said, at bookstudies it is so obvious your not commenting and that bothered me b/c I didn't want people to know I was on restrictions. At the meetings, it was easy b/c there was always like 100 people there so it isn't obvious at all but at bookstudies, its a lot harder.
MMO
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jambon1
Being on restrictions is another way of embarrasing people & making them look like children being sat with the dunces cap on. For a brother showing up to a field service group it is a challenge. Sometimes in our hall, the elder wouldn't show up & the phone would ring with said elder asking that a sister say a prayer for the group. Talk about making the brother embarrased! They treat people like kids. Mind you, more fool anyone for tolerating this treatment. It's a bit like thanking someone for spitting in your face.
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WTWizard
Often it bothered me more to comment, since it was expected. It was also expected that I would take the pro-JW stand on things like fornication, that could later be thrown back in my face to justify having all the "sisters" reject me and rig it in field circus so all I ever got to talk to were men.
On this forum, I can always find the Comments You Will Not Hear and comment there. Such comments are more accurate, and will not be thrown back in my face by any witlesses.
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Bourne
sweetface2233: "It only bothered me at the book study. I felt like all eyes were on me because there were 8-10 people there (at the most) and everyone (including the 5 year olds) but me were commenting."
Same thing here. I always believed that this was a way of further punishing you, that is, if you were "privately" reproved. First, they march you
into to back, knowing that others see you. THEN, they impose this "punishment", full well knowing that most will notice that your mouth has suddenly gone dry,
especially at the book study. So much for everything being "private".
Bourne
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AlmostAtheist
I was more bothered by the fact that there was NO scriptural backing for it. At least with DF'ing, they make an attempt to make it seem biblical. But they don't even try to justify the "restrictions" idea.
Dave